Started working with a guy I’ve been hooking up with …

Q Dear Gay Uncle,
I’ve been seeing this guy, on and off for a couple of years, just for a bit of no strings fun, while in-between boyfriends. It’s been a purely physical thing, I’ve not asked him about his history and he’s not asked about mine. We get on, and have an amazing physical dynamic together.

Last week I was introduced to a new work contract project manager, who happens to be him. We acted professionally and got on with work, but as we had to meet a mutual client and work together to for a week of ironing out the issues, we were hotel based for that period, away from home.

I’ve started to fall for him, after an intense week working and sleeping together I feel things are moving away from a hook up and into a more relationship zone. The only problem is he’s married to a woman. There’s no kids and he says the marriage is dead.

Can this ever be anything more?

Francis D.



You don’t know unless you ask. It takes two to be in a relationship. Is he as invested, as you, in developing things? Just ask. If you don’t you may never know.

There are always complications when a wife is involved, even if he claims their marriage is dead. But if he’s interested in starting something significant with you, it might be the trigger he needs to address his marriage problems and finally end it with her. Again, nothing happens unless you make your wishes known to him. Then see what happens.  In the meantime, be optimistic but realistic. Keep your emotions in check, at least until he shows signs of getting serious.

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