Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?


“Sex with you is so good, we should celebrate it by having sex.”

Do LGBTQ people have better sex than straight people? Maybe they do. Just maybe they do. 🙂

This is Rob, Susan’s husband, writing today.

Great sex has nothing to do with whether or not you are gay or straight, but think about it…

I think one of the keys to great, intimate, passionate, wild, tender, beautiful sex is freedom.

Being free to just be yourself, to love yourself, to love others, to let someone else love you. To be open and vulnerable and naked — not just physically, but emotionally. This is what gives you that intimate connection that makes magic.

When someone in the LGBTQ community comes out and decides to finally live true to themselves – they lay it all on the line, with their family, closest friends, their faith community, and the world in general.

Scary as hell.

But, when a person stands up and says, “This is who I really am.” in a shaky but proud, bold voice, something changes in their hearts and lives.

They take the arrows of hate and rejection. The first one — perhaps from Mom or Dad — hurts so much. And the arrows keep coming and by the 100th arrow, maybe they just don’t hurt quite as much.

But they also take the love and acceptance.  The first one feels so affirming. And the love keeps coming and by the 100th person, it feels even better!

They open themselves up. They are vulnerable. They show the world who they really are.

They are free.

I deeply admire that.

It is something that most of us straight people rarely experience – but it can inspire us to be more open and vulnerable.

That kind of vulnerability and being true to yourself does good for our souls in more ways than we can imagine and one of those is freedom.

And living free helps you share your heart, and receive another person’s heart more intimately.

And that makes for a better life.

This post is not really about sex — it is about the joys of being who you are, of living free.

But… freedom does lead to better sex. So see, I think I might be right.  🙂

photo credit: Inferkiss – flickr, cc.

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Cottrell-Rob and SusanROBERT COTTRELL and his wife Susan are founders of FreedHearts. Rob has nearly 30 years experience in the nonprofit and music industries. He is national speaker and teacher, and the proud father of their five amazing children. He has become a vocal ally and advocate of the LGBTQ community.


SUSAN COTTRELL is a national speaker, teacher, and counselor with years of Biblical study and discipleship experience. Her books include: Mom, I’m Gay – Loving Your LGBTQ Child Without Sacrificing Your Faithas well as How Not to Lose Your Teen and The Marriage Renovation. Through her nonprofit organization – – Susan champions the LGBTQ community and families with her characteristic tender-heartedness, and she zealously challenges Christians who reject them with her wise insistence that “loving God and loving others” are the foundation of the rest of the scripture, just as Jesus said.

She is the Vice-President of PFLAG Austin, and her “Mom, I’m Gay” book has been endorsed by The Human Rights Campaign and others. Sharon Groves, PhD, HRC’s Religion & Faith Program Director says, “I often get asked by parents for resources that can address the struggles of raising LGBT sons and daughters without having to leave faith behind. Susan Cottrell’s book, Mom, I’m Gay, does just that. This is the kind of book that parents will love.”

She and her husband have been married more than 25 years and have five children – one of whom is in the LGBTQ community. She lives in Austin, Texas, and blogs at and here in IMPACT Magazine’s FreedHearts and Jesus Blog columns.