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Finally Home

Posted by on Jul 15, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, God-Walk, Shepherd To Shepherd | 0 comments

Finally Home

HOME IS THE PLACE WHERE, WHEN YOU HAVE TO GO THERE, THEY HAVE TO TAKE YOU IN ― ROBERT FROST Like many queer people, I’ve had a messy and often painful relationship with the institutional church. Yet in my 33 years of life, I’ve come to believe that even messy and painful does not mean irredeemable. Last week, while attending the General Synod of the United Church of Christ, a whole lot of redemption happened. I’m still working to find the words to describe just what happened, but I’d like to share some of my...

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Sexy

Posted by on Jan 16, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real, Health & Fitness | 0 comments

Sexy

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just rolling out of bed in the morning — Vironika Tugaleva A few months ago, on a Monday, my friend Alex came over and started a journey with me. After a long enough time of wavering back and...

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Words

Posted by on Jan 9, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Words

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability, culture, family structure, race, creed, gender or sexuality, we all learn — many things in many ways. In particular, we learn words. Before I started my journey into CPE, or even into...

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Staying Airborne

Posted by on Feb 29, 2016 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Staying Airborne

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her ― Lao Tzu The last few nights, after getting over a pretty severe head cold, I found myself sleeping more deeply than before. I’ve been paying better attention to the heaviness in my eyelids, the slowing of my breath, the relaxing of my pulse. Rather than staying awake longer, I’ve been diligent to sit my book down, turn the lamp off, and go...

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Inwards and Outwards

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Inwards and Outwards

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart… live in the question ― Rainer Maria Rilke Nearly two months have passed since the last time I felt compelled to write publicly, and while I’ve written much in that time, most of it has been for me. Settling into a new place, a new life, a new way of being — it takes energy and focus. Acclimating to a new job (and a new setting) was a rocky experience, and I realized that I couldn’t sustain the energy I was putting into making my life and journey a public one. I’ve learned from...

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Expectations … or Loneliness…

Posted by on Sep 15, 2015 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Expectations … or Loneliness…

I wonder: when Jesus comes back, when God consummates God’s program, when redemption is complete, will it be possible for God to hide? I wonder if the trick is not drinking until you can’t tell the difference between Mordecai and Haman, but until you can’t tell the difference between God’s hiddenness and God’s presence, or perhaps until you can’t tell the difference between God’s hiddenness and God’s absence, for that finally is the question, that is the anguish—to abide in God’s hiddenness is one thing, to abide in God’s absence is...

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Instant Coffee…

Posted by on Dec 5, 2014 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Instant Coffee…

Two spoonfuls of Maxwell House. Two packets of Sweet-n-Low. One spoonful of powdered, non-dairy creamer. And a mug that is slightly younger than my mother. Two cups. Always two cups. For as long as I can remember, this was Nanny’s morning routine. She never ate much for breakfast — maybe a doughnut or a couple pieces of toast. On the weekends, she’s bake cinnamon rolls or make biscuits and gravy. But no matter what was on the plate, the coffee was in the mug. Made with an almost zen-like precision, I can still remember the sound of the kettle...

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Silent But Not Invisible

Posted by on Dec 2, 2014 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Silent But Not Invisible

Words can be twisted into any shape. Promises can be made to lull the heart and seduce the soul. In the final analysis, words mean nothing. They are labels we give things in an effort to wrap our puny little brains around their underlying natures, when ninety-nine percent of the time the totality of the reality is an entirely different beast. The wisest man is the silent one. Examine his actions. Judge him by them. — Karen Marie Moning I love spider webs. Growing up in semi-rural Kentucky and later in suburban Indiana, I always enjoyed the...

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Can I Be Both?

Posted by on Jun 11, 2014 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 2 comments

Can I Be Both?

Sometimes I just get tired of asking the questions… This morning, I read an article my friend Nico wrote about another mutual friend, Brad. On the one hand, I felt a sense of pride for knowing both men, one who identifies as an atheist/humanist and the other who professes (and lives a life of) faith in Christ. On the other hand, I felt partly envious for both: I envy Nico’s own ability to live a life separate from the church, and I envy Brad’s ability to live his life as both a gay man and a follower of Jesus. Sometimes being gay and...

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Compelled

Posted by on Jun 10, 2014 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Compelled

It’s been three years since it happened, and I can still remember it as if it were yesterday… Last Friday, I had the chance to sit down with a friend of a friend who is currently interviewing people for a soon-to-be-released nonprofit film called Compelling Love. Going into the interview, I only briefly watched the Kickstarter video and glanced at the Facebook page. A few emails were exchanged, times were arranged, and the next thing you know, I’m sitting in a surprisingly comfortable chair in a suite at the Drake hotel in which I could only...

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