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The Sacrament of Cooking Bacon

Posted by on Nov 11, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

The Sacrament of Cooking Bacon

Growing up as a Protestant, I had an inherent distaste for ritual. Liturgy, routines and orders of worship (even though every church has one) … were all equated with “religion,” the imitation of true relationship with God. “Religion = Death” was a mental slogan, even if the words never quite formed that way in our minds.  Even habits. You hardly ever heard about “good habits.” Mostly, habits were referenced in the context of sinful things we did, that our “flesh” compelled us to do. Habits...

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Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

Posted by on Oct 23, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, God-Walk | 9 comments

Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

  “God has a plan. God is working his plan. God’s plan includes you.”  Those were words printed in bold letters on a sign hung above the pulpit in a church I used to go to in Tulsa. The pastor wanted her people to know that their lives were not just stuck in the mud, that God was doing something in them and through them. God was working. We all need that hope. We all need that reassurance that we’re part of something bigger, that our lives have significance and purpose. Or at least, many of us do. I do. And every once in a while we need...

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Dear Church Leaders: Get Real or Go Home

Posted by on Oct 3, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Church Chat, Featured | 9 comments

Dear Church Leaders: Get Real or Go Home

If I have to see one more article on “why millennials are leaving the church,” I think I might scream. Well, not really. Those dramatic days are (mostly) behind me. But really. The younger generation has always been leaving the church … I remember hearing the same lament back in the 70s when I was just a kid. The thing is, as much as I grow weary of seeing post after post, blog after blog, on the topic, there’s always a bit of truth to them. The church NEEDS to grow, needs to change with each generation. It’s not...

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You Belong

Posted by on Sep 23, 2015 in FreedHearts, Reviews | 0 comments

You Belong

    Introducing Susan Cottrell’s new book, True Colors – Celebrating the the Truth and Beauty of the Real You. “Every person deserves a place to belong, to be loved, to be whole. I long to offer you that place. And so here it is, just for you. ‘True Colors’ is for healing with others, healing with God, and healing with yourself.” – Susan Cottrell Check out a free preview of her book.  Here’s an excerpt … I don’t care what you’ve been told, you belong in the family of God every bit as much as anyone...

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What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Posted by on Sep 14, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Love & Sex | 16 comments

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that particular can of worms. People are already questioning my salvation, LOL. But today I saw one more post on Facebook. A friend shared an article about some guy who didn’t want to...

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Bachelor Food: Naan Pizza for One (or Two)

Posted by on Aug 29, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Food! | 0 comments

Bachelor Food: Naan Pizza for One (or Two)

“I love it that you have all these random jars of interesting things in your refrigerator.” That was Jake. We were making dinner together one night last week, and I pulled out a jar of Giardiniera. It’s basically just pickled cauliflower, carrots, celery and peppers; you know, stuff to munch on while you’re watching TV, when you want something but don’t know exactly what. I suppose it goes well on the side with a sandwich too, but … you know, if you’re a foodie, you just gotta have all kinds of stuff handy....

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When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Posted by on Aug 18, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Love & Sex | 0 comments

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people have wrestled with our identities, trying to come to terms accepting ourselves, defining ourselves, discovering ourselves, exploring our own psyches, often even seeking professional...

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And then God struck …. Not.

Posted by on Jun 26, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Hot Topics | 35 comments

And then God struck …. Not.

Minutes after the US Supreme Court handed down their ruling overturning bans on same-sex marriage, posts were already going up on Facebook and across the blogosphere about “Spitting in the face of God” and “God’s impending wrath on America. *Sigh* Really? Of course, this kind of reaction is not surprising. There are a surprising number of people who are invested in preserving tradition and a strict moral code that does not allow for love between two people of the same gender. It’s a religious thing, not a...

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Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Posted by on Jun 18, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, God-Walk | 1 comment

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

We are a “Faith” generation. Many of us who surfed the wave of “Word-Faith” teaching that swept explosively through the Church in the 1980s and ’90s have since found our balance point in life. As with any fresh movement of the Spirit, there were excesses, misunderstandings, and actions out of spiritual immaturity unchecked by the wisdom and experience of older saints. But millions of believers around the world found a new vitality with God that had been absent so long in their traditional church upbringing. I was...

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When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

Posted by on Jun 12, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, God-Walk | 28 comments

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

Living with uncertainty just may be the mark of a genuinely in-touch spiritual life. When your thoughts, your perspective of the God and the universe, go beyond the limits of what you’ve been taught, when you begin to think outside the lines, it can be a very scary thing. But it can also be a sign of profound growth. And you might be in touch with God in a way that you weren’t before. Something could be happening to you – and it could be a really, really good thing. I’ve noticed this a lot in the past decade or so. And mostly,...

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