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Bachelor Food: Creamy Vermouth Pasta with Italian Sausage

Posted by on Nov 10, 2017 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Food! | 0 comments

Bachelor Food: Creamy Vermouth Pasta with Italian Sausage

I was trying to avoid the inevitable question: “What do you want for dinner tonight?” Usually, we bounce one or two ideas back and forth, and end up settling on the one that hasn’t been vetoed by either of us. I was kinda in the mood for pasta (what else is new?), but really didn’t want traditional spaghetti or one of our variations, like (my fav) Puttanesca. I make a pretty decent rotini — you know, those cork screw macaronis — with mixed vegetables and olive oil and parmesan cheese for our “Meatless...

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End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

Posted by on Jul 20, 2017 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Hot Topics | 0 comments

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

It is never a good feeling when you get an email blast from a beloved organization you have supported for many years that begins “Due to irreconcilable differences …” That’s what shook Facebook and social media July 19th. And the posts and comments exploded. What happened? Why? Who’s to blame? What happens next, what about …? A pillar of the LGBTQ Christian community is crumbling. GCN — the Gay Christian Network — and its founder and executive director, Justin Lee, released joint statements that...

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Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Posted by on Feb 7, 2017 in Cafe Inspirado, Food! | 0 comments

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re tasty, easy to make — and grain-free. So here’s how this little adventure started out. I love my carbs. Pastas, pancakes, pastries, crusty French bread… They’re the stuff of life. They’re also not great for someone keeping an eye on their blood sugars and lipids. So I’ve been deliberately cutting out foods with added sugars, and...

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Bachelor Food: Pasta Puttanesca

Posted by on Oct 28, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Food! | 0 comments

Bachelor Food: Pasta Puttanesca

It’s been a while since we’ve run a foodie post, but the other day when I posted a photo of my dinner on Facebook (yeah, I’m one of those people), a bachelor friend commented that he doesn’t know how to cook and wished I’d posted the recipe along with the photo. So, for you, Jay, here it is. I’ve been a spaghetti fan since I was a kid. And it’s one of the handful of foods that almost every guy knows how to cook. No big recipe needed, no elaborate culinary planning or advanced shopping needed. Most of...

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Stop Looking for Mr Right

Posted by on Oct 26, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Love & Sex | 15 comments

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got me to write this. He added, “for those seriously interested only.” And there it is. I see it a lot in my Christian guy friends. The desire to skip right over the dating...

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Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

Posted by on Aug 18, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Church Chat | 0 comments

Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

  I had to resist rubbing my hands together in a weak moment of delighted schadenfreude when I read that Tony Perkins — rabid right-wing, anti-gay leader of the Family Research Council — lost his house this past week in the floods of Louisiana. The same guy who preached that natural disasters were God’s vengeance on America for tolerating gays, abortion … and whatever in-vogue sin of the day is tolerated in our society. Maybe you’re not so blessed, so privileged as you think. “Karma,” some of my...

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Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

Posted by on May 13, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

A couple of friends on social media have posted recently about the difficulties they’re having after breaking up with their boyfriends. I can empathize. That emotional vortex can tear you apart for a few weeks and make you feel like your whole life is destroyed. But, for me, it turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. Relationships are wonderful things. We humans seem to crave them. We can feel isolated, lonely, and incomplete without them, as if our lives have little or no meaning unless someone else is there sharing it...

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Please, Don’t Invite Someone to Church This Month

Posted by on Mar 29, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Church Chat, Featured | 22 comments

Please, Don’t Invite Someone to Church This Month

We’ve got some big problems in the Church these days. That’s no great revelation. Just ask anybody on the street what they think of Christianity, especially during election season, and you’ll get an earful.  We hear it so often, in fact, that we in the Church turn a deaf ear to it. We tune it out. We’re callous to criticism. And we just go on our merry way, carrying on as good soldiers of the Cross. Well, at least on Sundays. So when I drove by this sign stuck lazily in the ground by the side of the road, insisting I “invite someone to church...

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An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

Posted by on Feb 8, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Church Chat, Featured | 0 comments

An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

Today, another moral dilemma for an introvert. One of the guys in the company I work for put in his notice, and the managers want to do a “going away lunch” for him — today. Short notice. And it kinda freaks me out. I really don’t want to go. I hardly know the guy, I hate work-related social events, and especially without adequate time to mentally prepare myself. So, should I go or not?  “Should I.” That’s the operative phrase. When chewing on this … and getting texts from a friend who also...

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Growing Beyond the Formulas

Posted by on Nov 16, 2015 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, God-Walk | 0 comments

Growing Beyond the Formulas

I just saw a cute meme on Facebook. Sounds almost like the beginning of a joke, right? But I really liked it. It was tasteful, unlike so many of the religious-themed ones. It had a message I liked.  And it was simple. But … It was also simplistic. As far as memes go, this one was probably as true as any of them. General encouragement, general principle, general instruction. Generally helpful. But the problem is that it was just that: general and simplistic. It could not address my specific situation. It reduced a complex and free-flowing...

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