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Respect — It’s Not That Hard

Respect — It’s Not That Hard

Aug 17, 2014

“You have no idea how important you are to me. I will try and put it into words… I feel more like a woman when I am with you here [on FB] than any other person with the exception of my therapist. I never feel like a split or two people. You have always treated me with the respect of a sister … “ When my trans friend Joy messaged me this,...

Paradox = Father’s Day for a Trans Woman

Paradox = Father’s Day for a Trans Woman

Jun 14, 2014

  It seems innocent enough, to have a day to celebrate fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. If one’s relationship with their father was a good one, this day of honor will seem completely appropriate and welcomed. If your dad was not deserving of this kind of respect, then this yearly reminder could be extremely painful....

Can I Trust You with a Secret?

Can I Trust You with a Secret?

May 26, 2014

Do you have a secret? How big is it? How do you think people will respond if they find out? It wasn’t always clear to Santiago Salazar that somewhere inside him was a Lisa that would someday—a long time into the future—show herself to the world. After living the first forty eight years of life as Santiago, a married, heterosexual man and father of three...

Transgender Teachers?

Transgender Teachers?

May 17, 2014

  “Students should not be forced into an environment where they are coerced to accept or affirm a teacher’s gender identity issues.” – Andrea Lafferty, President, Traditional Values Coalition ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act) has been in the news lately, with grave concerns expressed in opposition. “Should transgender people be allowed to...

Do Transgender People Scare You?

Do Transgender People Scare You?

May 13, 2014

“I can’t remember a time that I didn’t know that I was a girl.” Janet Mock, on HBO’s “The Out List” When I came out of the closet as a Mom of an LGBTQ child and an ally,”T” was not really part of my experience. I had never met a trans person (that I knew of) in my life. In the last year, on this circuitous route my life has taken, I’ve come to know...

Lisa’s Take on “Dallas Buyers Club”

Lisa’s Take on “Dallas Buyers Club”

Mar 6, 2014

No, I haven’t seen the movie, Dallas Buyers Club, and I don’t plan to. It’s my wallet that decides what I do these days! But in the mean time, I have been reading the on-going negative commentary about the portrayal of the transgender character “Rayon” from the perspective of the trans* community. What needs to be taken into...

My Highs and Lows of Transgender Advocacy

My Highs and Lows of Transgender Advocacy

Jan 15, 2014

Sometimes I preach to the choir, sometimes to the genuinely curious and sensitive; at other times to hostile skeptics, but often to myself. I had the distinct honor and privilege to do a workshop at this year’s Gay Christian Network Conference (GCN) last weekend. I cannot begin to describe what it is like to be among 700 attendees who have one thing in...

A Man Chooses Death in Belgium

A Man Chooses Death in Belgium

Oct 23, 2013

A man chooses death in Belgium * Something went wrong with the surgeries, the article said “Botched,” I believe is the word that was used Born a woman, the man transforming felt like a monster His former breasts ragged remnants, and his manhood A thing of reprehensible sight. He decided the agony had no right to claim him; He chose euthanasia. His...

The Power of the Paradigm-Shifting Gospel

The Power of the Paradigm-Shifting Gospel

Aug 13, 2013

As a transsexual Christian woman, I can say that when it comes to reconciling our faith to our sexuality, all of us who are LGBTQI have experienced an internalized struggle and fierce debate that would make most people’s dogma run for the hills. Growing up in a time when the word “transgender” did not exist meant that I did not even have the...

Who Made Me the Gender-Role Police?

Who Made Me the Gender-Role Police?

Apr 9, 2013

In a story in The New Yorker magazine titled “About a Boy: Transgender surgery at age sixteen,”  Margaret Talbot talks about how many more females are coming out as transgender now than in the past.  It reflects the amazing progress trans people have made in recent years. But it also made me aware of my own subtle bias about gender-role conformity. My doctors...