Where Faith, the Real World & Gay Life intersect!

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

May 30, 2016

For many Christians, the belief in “waiting until marriage” for sexual activity is often deeply motivated by their faith. But sometimes hiding underneath those convictions can be other unhealthy issues that may actually impede a happy sex life once they are married. We live in a culture that is sex obsessed. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to beer to...

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Aug 18, 2015

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people...

Relationships, Flings and the “Real Thing”

Relationships, Flings and the “Real Thing”

Oct 21, 2014

There seems to be three kinds of environmental advocate. One kind wants to get renewable energy and choose better materials for our products and then have things go on pretty much the same. Another wants those things, but also wants a more just and fair economic system and then have things go on pretty much the same. But the kind of environmentalist I am is the...

Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Jul 24, 2014

  “Sex with you is so good, we should celebrate it by having sex.” Do LGBTQ people have better sex than straight people? Maybe they do. Just maybe they do. 🙂 This is Rob, Susan’s husband, writing today. Great sex has nothing to do with whether or not you are gay or straight, but think about it… I think one of the keys to great, intimate, passionate, wild,...

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Jul 14, 2014

When it comes to relationships, I’ve heard plenty of horror stories of couples that just don’t get along, fight all the time, and have to take heroic measures to keep their other half happy — or at the very least, not their worst enemy. But what is it that can be the best way to determine if your relationship is a healthy one or if it should go the way of the...

Rethinking Sex

Rethinking Sex

Jul 11, 2014

One of the biggest challenges of being a Christian young adult is trying to understand what to do with your sexuality and sexdrive. In the conservative Christian world it is unanimously accepted that any kind of sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful and should be refrained from at all costs. This means no masturbation, no intercourse, and for many, no...

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Jan 4, 2014

Romance and dating are a big part of the human experience. We love it. We thrive on it. It brings color and flavor to our daily grind, and a jolt of excitement to our work-a-day week. Some of us jump right into physical intimacy with someone we may have just met, and some of us prefer to wait until a relationship has been built and we’re confident this person...

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Nov 29, 2013

When it comes to condoms, a lot of what you like is down to personal preference. So if you’re new to the dating pool or if you’re an old pro, how you roll is all up to you. While one person might like a ribbed mint flavour condom (who?), someone else won’t be able to get enough of a chocolate-flavour ultra-thin condom. Then there are the...