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Naked and Unashamed

Naked and Unashamed

May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the line “Sex is evil. Sex is bad. Save it for the one you love.” It’s funny, yet so terribly sad. Add to this situation that I was gay. Growing up gay in the evangelical church added...

Words

Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

May 13, 2016

A couple of friends on social media have posted recently about the difficulties they’re having after breaking up with their boyfriends. I can empathize. That emotional vortex can tear you apart for a few weeks and make you feel like your whole life is destroyed. But, for me, it turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. Relationships are...

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

May 9, 2016

Run of the mill coming out narratives usually consist of an adolescent realizing at some point that he is “not like the other boys.” And after bouts with crushes on friends, adventures in the world of pornography, a “bisexual phase,” and perhaps a period of deep depression or anxiety, he will eventually “come out of the closet” and reveal his “true identity” to...

A Transwoman’s Coming of Age in Malaysia

A Transwoman’s Coming of Age in Malaysia

Oct 31, 2014

  At 38 years old, Vivienne is a completely different person than she was many years ago. She is comfortable with herself, happy, and surrounded by friends who love her. She enjoys the freedom to live and do the things she loves without fear. But as a transwoman, she had to build that life for herself.  She chose to make her life not just normal, but...

“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

Sep 5, 2014

 “You are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.“ Uh, what!? Have you heard that? Had it thrown in your face? What in the world does it mean?? Who can be perfect? And is that a reasonable goal? No, it’s not. And it’s not what you think the verse means. “Perfect” in the original biblical language means...

Compelled

Compelled

Jun 10, 2014

It’s been three years since it happened, and I can still remember it as if it were yesterday… Last Friday, I had the chance to sit down with a friend of a friend who is currently interviewing people for a soon-to-be-released nonprofit film called Compelling Love. Going into the interview, I only briefly watched the Kickstarter video and glanced at the Facebook...

From Ashes, Pure Delight

From Ashes, Pure Delight

Mar 8, 2014

There’s something amazing about spending time with the people we love… Psalm 149 1   Praise the Lord! Sing to the Lord a new song, his praise in the assembly of the faithful. 2   Let Israel be glad in its Maker; let the children of Zion rejoice in their King. 3   Let them praise his name with dancing, making melody to him with tambourine and lyre. 4   For the...

Time Travel Conversations with My Teenage Self

Time Travel Conversations with My Teenage Self

Oct 9, 2013

Every sci-fi nerd has the wild, crazy dream of time travel. For those of us who have held that fantasy, the one person we middle-aged geeks would love to meet is a younger version of ourselves. My blatherings today are of such a dream, and is the conversation that I might have should I ever ride along with a madman in a blue box or slingshot around the sun at...

Grieving Straightness

Grieving Straightness

Sep 23, 2013

For many, coming out is liberating… But it’s not always this way. Some people are outed. Some are found out. Some are forced to come out ahead of schedule. Some never come out at all, spending their lives living out the fantasy of what it would mean to be someone else, something else. When people ask me about my coming out story, I very often start with a...