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Jesus Wept… Because of Christians, Not Gays.

  “Jesus wept.”  But not because of gays. This is Rob Cottrell, Susan’s husband. I wanted to share my heart with you today. This past year the Supreme Court handed down rulings supporting gay marriage. Many Christians used words like abomination, devastating, disgusting, tragic. Mike Huckabee, the ultra conservative right wing TV personality and former...

Same-Sex Marriage: Why We Have to Go Beyond Jesus

Same-Sex Marriage: Why We Have to Go Beyond Jesus

May 20, 2014

In my experience, the conservative stance on the issue of same-sex marriage really isn’t founded on the handful of passages from Leviticus and Paul. Yes, those get quoted a lot, but the interpretation of those passages is often driven by a larger prior conviction, namely, that Jesus clearly stated that marriage is between a man and a woman, thus creating...

World Vision & Evangelical Blindness

World Vision & Evangelical Blindness

Mar 25, 2014

It was just yesterday that the president of the Christian social justice organization World Vision announced that it would begin hiring LGBTQ Christians, both married and unmarried, to work at its organization. The reasoning behind the decision was explained to be one that was “symbolic not of compromise but of [Christian] unity.” In a letter to his...

Legalizing Discrimination in the name of Christianity

Legalizing Discrimination in the name of Christianity

Feb 13, 2014

For years, anti-gay politicians and religious impersonators have been warning their followers that “the gays” want to put preachers in jail, and that LGBT equality will allow the gays to fully and legally intimidate, bully, and discriminate against good Christians. A new flurry of bills throughout the country has tipped their cards to the rest of us...

Being Gay: The REAL Choice

Being Gay: The REAL Choice

Jan 13, 2014

The discussion over LGBT rights and equality is rife with emotion, debated with passion, and unfortunately, peppered with misinformation. Many of the discussions from those opposed to LGBT equality use words like “lifestyle,” “behavior,” and my favorite, “sodomy.” Of course, there’s the even more religious sounding variation — sodomite. We talk about issues...

What the Duck? The Hidden Right Wing Agenda

What the Duck? The Hidden Right Wing Agenda

Dec 22, 2013

Yes, we are all tired of the Phil Robertson and Duck Dynasty “controversy.” My own posts on Facebook on the topic drew fever-pitched debates and even resulted in one person un-friending me because I insisted that it has nothing to do with “Freedom of speech.” Once I stopped reading and rolling my eyes at the ridiculous comments on the whole ducking issue, I...

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Oct 31, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, I’ve dated girls all of my adult life, with one experience in high school which has left me with the lasting impression that guys are really for me. I’ve been single for two years after the breakdown and resulting divorce from my ex wife.  For the last couple of months I’ve been chatting with guys in gay chat...

On Being Invisible

On Being Invisible

Oct 15, 2013

During a night in which I could not sleep, I decided instead to finish a reading assignment for an upcoming event and read through Dr. Martin Luther King’s “Letter from Birmingham Jail.” I had read it before, of course, studied it—as all Americans should—in school.  But in the light of the current day, and in this particular moment in my own life, the text...

A Vision of Roman Catholic Affirmation

A Vision of Roman Catholic Affirmation

Jul 25, 2013

Ihad just finished listening to the reading of the Palm Sunday Gospel.  As I sat down for the priest’s homily, I prepared myself for some sort of commentary on the impending SCOTUS cases regarding the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8.  As the sermon concluded, however, I was pleasantly surprised to not hear anything associated with these...

In Defense of Marriage

In Defense of Marriage

Jun 28, 2013

I spent much of the day celebrating with my family when the Supreme Court’s decision overturning the Defense of Marriage Act was announced. The court’s ruling paves the way for a more equal America for us. Our family is now closer to accessing the same legal rights and privileges that other families already have. Our son will soon have the benefit of a stable...