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Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Oct 10, 2016

Several years ago, as I was journeying out of the traditional theological view of gay marriage, I read an extraordinary book by Dr. James Brownson titled Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing The Church’s Debate on Same-Sex Relationships. Bible, Gender, Sexuality is a thing of theological beauty: elegant, persuasive, and deeply compassionate. It was the book that...

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

May 30, 2016

For many Christians, the belief in “waiting until marriage” for sexual activity is often deeply motivated by their faith. But sometimes hiding underneath those convictions can be other unhealthy issues that may actually impede a happy sex life once they are married. We live in a culture that is sex obsessed. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to beer to...

Is It In His Eyes?

Is It In His Eyes?

Mar 22, 2016

Attraction is tricky. You see a guy and you say to your friend, “He’s so fine;” a girl walks by and you think, “Wish she were mine.” You like that she’s shy, or that he’s a soft-spoken guy. Do-lang, do-lang, you fall. He’s the one you dream of. She looks into your eyes and takes you to the clouds above. You fall in love whenever you meet, and say a prayer...

Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Sep 15, 2015

The scripture used by many conservative Christians to define marriage as one-man-one-woman (#1M1W), doesn’t actually define marriage at all.  In fact, Jesus never defined marriage. The famous passage in Matthew 19 goes like this: Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”...

Being a Friend of the LGBTQ Community

Being a Friend of the LGBTQ Community

Sep 10, 2015

In my second year of college I met one of my best friends, Andrea. She was my boss at the restaurant I worked and we soon grew to be very close. We hung out at work, smoked together on breaks, and gossiped about our lives. I noticed that she always spoke about one person in particular, a girl, but I thought maybe it was her roommate or sister. I asked her who...

The Conservative War Against Gay Rights: Why “Natural Law” is a Weak Defense

The Conservative War Against Gay Rights: Why “Natural Law” is a Weak Defense

Aug 27, 2015

The jurists of natural law seem to me to be in that naive state of mind that accepts what has been familiar and accepted by them and their neighbors as something that must be accepted by all men everywhere. – Oliver Wendell Holmes, Supreme Court Justice, “Natural Law” (1918)   With the right for same-sex couples to marry now constitutionally...

A Hand to Hold. Thoughts after a Lesbian Wedding.

A Hand to Hold. Thoughts after a Lesbian Wedding.

May 26, 2015

Last weekend I had the privilege and honor of attending the wedding of my friends, Cara and Leah. They are such a beautiful and loving couple, and they are both very active members of our church community at New Heart. The love that they have shared over the years has been able to challenge the beliefs held by even our pastor, Danny Cortez. How special it must...

Does Monogamy work in Same-Sex Relationships?

Does Monogamy work in Same-Sex Relationships?

Mar 20, 2015

What is monogamy, and is it a practical expectation for same-sex relationships? Pastor Romell and First Gentleman Damion Parks-Weekly delve into this topic in their first episode of From Me To We. The gist of this episode is that single people need to SLOW DOWN and not try to rush into a relationship. Take time to get to know and enjoy the other person. You...

How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

Jun 24, 2014

This morning, Dolce and I received a lovely text from a young priest at the church we attended for some years before moving to Massachusetts. It’s part of a socially conservative new denomination which strives to reunite the liturgical, evangelical, and charismatic Christan streams. Dolce and I were active in leadership and in the life of the church when...

We Are NOT God’s Hall Monitor

We Are NOT God’s Hall Monitor

Jun 18, 2014

Why was the shoe stopped by the hall monitor? Because it was being knotty.  🙂 What is the church’s voice in the marriage equality issue, and how helpful is it? As I consider this question from Glad Alliance Church, I look at the church’s role overall. The church has produced immeasurable good in the culture, as Christians have followed Jesus’ call to protect...