Where Faith, the Real World & Gay Life intersect!

Is It In His Eyes?

Is It In His Eyes?

Mar 22, 2016

Attraction is tricky. You see a guy and you say to your friend, “He’s so fine;” a girl walks by and you think, “Wish she were mine.” You like that she’s shy, or that he’s a soft-spoken guy. Do-lang, do-lang, you fall. He’s the one you dream of. She looks into your eyes and takes you to the clouds above. You fall in love whenever you meet, and say a prayer...

Staying Airborne

Staying Airborne

Feb 29, 2016

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her ― Lao Tzu The last few nights, after getting over a pretty severe head cold, I found myself sleeping more deeply than before. I’ve been paying better...

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Aug 18, 2015

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people...

Relationships, Flings and the “Real Thing”

Relationships, Flings and the “Real Thing”

Oct 21, 2014

There seems to be three kinds of environmental advocate. One kind wants to get renewable energy and choose better materials for our products and then have things go on pretty much the same. Another wants those things, but also wants a more just and fair economic system and then have things go on pretty much the same. But the kind of environmentalist I am is the...

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Jul 14, 2014

When it comes to relationships, I’ve heard plenty of horror stories of couples that just don’t get along, fight all the time, and have to take heroic measures to keep their other half happy — or at the very least, not their worst enemy. But what is it that can be the best way to determine if your relationship is a healthy one or if it should go the way of the...

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Oct 31, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, I’ve dated girls all of my adult life, with one experience in high school which has left me with the lasting impression that guys are really for me. I’ve been single for two years after the breakdown and resulting divorce from my ex wife.  For the last couple of months I’ve been chatting with guys in gay chat...

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Aug 14, 2013

As an older guy who’s experienced life and been around a bit, I often find myself being asked by my younger friends for tips on love and life. How do you do know when a relationship is right for you? What things should I do or not do? What are the early warning signals that things are heading south? So I polled some of my other “mature”...

How to Survive a Breakup and Not End Up a Psycho

How to Survive a Breakup and Not End Up a Psycho

Jul 3, 2013

What do you do when somebody you’ve loved your entire life suddenly decides to call it quits? Are you going to pretend that it’s okay and walk away with a full megawatt smile plastered on your face just to make him feel that you’re not affected at all (even if you’re slowly dying inside and secretly wishing he’d come after you)? Or are you going to cry like a...