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Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Jul 4, 2016

I have heard it said so many times before.  “As soon as I get married, I know all these things will change.” I’d like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have not been married before, to consider the following truths I believe will cause every present and future marriage to be the healthy and wonderful experience God had in mind when he...

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

May 13, 2016

A couple of friends on social media have posted recently about the difficulties they’re having after breaking up with their boyfriends. I can empathize. That emotional vortex can tear you apart for a few weeks and make you feel like your whole life is destroyed. But, for me, it turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. Relationships are...

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

Jul 31, 2015

The most dangerous thing about looking for and falling in love is dwelling in your head for too long. I admit I love being in love. I love thinking about it. I love the Disney movies that celebrate it with those saccharine sweet story lines and the runaway pop hits. (No, I will not Let It Go!) I am a romantic at heart, and I admit to being very adept in using...

“Will it Ever Happen For Me?” Relationships can happen at any age. Are you ready for it?

“Will it Ever Happen For Me?”  Relationships can happen at any age. Are you ready for it?

Jun 19, 2015

Finding a life-long partner is almost an obsession with most single people. “Is it ever gonna happen to me?” You can almost get into a panic about it. So when you finally start dating a decent prospect, you find yourself doing whatever you can to “make it work.” Pastor Romell and Damion say you shouldn’t have to work so hard....

Love & Sex Q&A: Will Love Come?

Love & Sex Q&A: Will Love Come?

Apr 28, 2014

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, Q I’ve been dating a guy for the last six/seven months, he’s a really nice guy and all my friends and family like him.  My last partner was dreadful to me, but I loved him and stayed with him for years, putting up with his bullying ways, repeatedly cheating on me, along with his alcohol and drug issues.  I eventually...

Loneliness and Finding Connection

Loneliness and Finding Connection

Apr 10, 2014

A while back I met with a mentor to talk about a then-current relationship I was in. I remember confessing to him how afraid I was… Nothing was wrong with her or our relationship, in fact everything was amazing. I was just afraid. Afraid that I’ll get hurt, wounded, or that eventually things wouldn’t work out. It was the fear that eventually she might see me...

Making the Most of Being Single

Making the Most of Being Single

Jan 31, 2014

As a twentysomething Jesus-loving, Bible-reading, church-attending female, I am aware that I have already failed to meet the expectations of the older generation and even my peers by not having a significant other. And, to be quite honest with you, I don’t even know who I want him to be yet. Passionate about Jesus and others? Check. Authentic, full of...

The Messiest Present

The Messiest Present

Dec 24, 2013

The incarnation is the complete refutation of every human system and institution that claims to control, possess, and distribute God. Whatever any church or religious leader may claim in regard to their particular access to God or control over your experience of God, the incarnation is the last word: God loves the world — Michael Spencer, Mere Churchianity...

10 Tips to Survive and Thrive in a Long Distance Relationship

10 Tips to Survive and Thrive in a Long Distance Relationship

Nov 5, 2013

With more and more people meeting online, it’s much easier these days to connect with someone who may live on the other side of the country, or even the other side of the world.  Of course, you take all the steps to make sure it’s a “real thing” and not just a mutual fantasy you’re both indulging in, but once that line gets crossed and things get serious, how...