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Not Especially: Changing one word in our prayers can make a huge difference

Not Especially: Changing one word in our prayers can make a huge difference

Jan 12, 2016

There’s a thing I do whenever I’m the one leading the prayers of the people that I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about before, but it came up at lunch after church this past Sunday and I found myself expressing myself in this way: I said, “I take deep theological exception to the word especially.” Until that moment, I...

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Jun 18, 2015

We are a “Faith” generation. Many of us who surfed the wave of “Word-Faith” teaching that swept explosively through the Church in the 1980s and ’90s have since found our balance point in life. As with any fresh movement of the Spirit, there were excesses, misunderstandings, and actions out of spiritual immaturity unchecked by the...

Crazy Is As Crazy Does

Crazy Is As Crazy Does

Sep 17, 2014

I wonder if people sometimes think I’m crazy. Okay, a variety of reasons for that might pop to mind, but I am thinking of this one. When I am by myself — walking, driving, at the mall — I talk out loud. Sometimes working through my thoughts, getting them out. Often, I’m talking to God, praying, but unless you can hear me, you don’t...

Run to God, Not the Bible

Run to God, Not the Bible

Jun 2, 2014

For Evangelicals, if you want to know what God has to say on any given topic or in any situation, you turn to the Bible. The Bible is the centerpiece of Protestant spiritual life- it is not only our highest authority, but for many, it is our only sacrament, the only place that Jesus Christ is revealed and communicates his grace to us. The Bible, in short, is...

Prayer: It’s How You Live

Prayer: It’s How You Live

Mar 19, 2014

I’ve been reflecting on prayer. Mainly because over the past year, the way my prayer life has looked has changed significantly. I used to be someone who prayed according to the traditional understanding — speaking to God on behalf of myself and others for his praise and glory — all of the time. Literally, I would walk around praying. I’d...

Tying God’s Hands with Our Expectations

Tying God’s Hands with Our Expectations

May 17, 2013

One of the things I love about my “new spirituality” friends is that they’ve helped increase my faith in God.  They walk around with an expectation that good things are going to happen to them.  They speak positive things “into the Universe,” and they believe that good things will “manifest” to them.  By any other name, that’s faith. Of course, some of them...

Exactly How Will You Pray for Me?

Exactly How Will You Pray for Me?

Mar 18, 2013

Every once in a while, I encounter a fellow Christian who is completely taken back by my assertion that I am both gay and Christian. It’s pretty rare that the conversation immediately goes to, “Great! Got a boyfriend?” Usually, I have to explain that Romans is all about Idolatry, Leviticus is not relevant for today’s society, and that Sodom was not destroyed...

The God Who Says “No”

The God Who Says “No”

Oct 7, 2010

I was watching an episode of West Wing the other day, and Toby, the sulky, dark, idealistic character, quotes an Italian proverb to C.J, the Press Secretary: Quando dio vuole castigarci ci manda quello che desideriamo — “When the gods wish to punish us, they answer our prayers.” Interesting quote. But it got me thinking: Thank God, my God is...

What You’re Looking for May be Right Under Your Nose — You Just Don’t Recognize It Yet

What You’re Looking for May be Right Under Your Nose — You Just Don’t Recognize It Yet

Jul 8, 2010

“Among you stands one you do not recognize…” – John 1:26 Sometimes we think too much. There’s a phrase I’ve heard a lot (often aimed at me) that describes how many of us handle particular situations: “paralysis by analysis.” We want something, we’ve been looking forward to something, we’ve sought God...

Dogs that Hang Around Get the Snack

Dogs that Hang Around Get the Snack

Jul 7, 2010

I just finished eating a late breakfast while watching episodes of West Wing on DVD, and as I started clearing up my plates, I looked down at my feet to see which dog was hanging around. Usually, whenever they hear any kind of activity in the kitchen, they come running.  Some snack or little bits of left-overs, even just some pre-dishwasher plate-licking is...