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7 Online Dating Tips (from a guy who’s never had a boyfriend)

7 Online Dating Tips (from a guy who’s never had a boyfriend)

Mar 30, 2016

The online dating world is rough. Dating in general is rough. You have a lot to compete with and who knows what the other person’s intentions are. I’ve never had a boyfriend (full disclosure, and all that), and it isn’t for the lack of trying. I do live on dating apps however, and go on quite a few dates. Here are the tips I have learned that work to at...

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Oct 6, 2015

“Oh look, the cute guy messaged me first!” I exclaim. “Let me see.” My friends reply. “Never mind, he’s not my type.” “How do you know?” “He’s a ‘no fats, fems, blacks, Asians, Caucasians with brown eyes, guys who don’t like the color pink, guys who onlydrink  whiskey, and guys who breathe’ kind of guy.” Haven’t we all been on the receiving end of this? I know...

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Sep 25, 2015

Dear Guys, Thanks to social media, we can now condense anything we want to into 140 characters. If you can’t, then you really can’t stay relevant. This idea overflows into the online dating profile. How do we capture someone’s attention in a short span but also try to convey a little bit about what we are? Some of us don’t even try, there is nothing in the...

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Sep 23, 2015

Online dating has become a fixed part of our reality in recent years. People used to laugh at it, but with millions using dating sites every day — and marriages sometimes resulting from them — why limit your options?  Here’s a cool bit of trivia for ya: 80% of gay men now meet their long-term partners online.  Interested now? Here’s a...

How To Avoid Finding the Wrong Person Online

How To Avoid Finding the Wrong Person Online

Dec 12, 2013

Over the past decade, online dating has been an increasingly popular method for just about anyone and everyone to find dates or activity partners. It provides a certain degree of simplicity and ease. Instead of being forced to engage in sometimes awkward social situations, dating sites offer members a platform to network with like-minded individuals without...

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Aug 24, 2013

  Sigh.  Another coffee-date finished. Nice enough guy, good conversation, but no sparks. Not gonna happen. Cross that one off the prospective husband list. Next! Sometimes this whole dating thing is exhausting. It’s draining, breaking the ice initially, generating  conversation, then the meet-up. Emotions jump into play at some point along the way. Excitement...

Dating Scams

Dating Scams

Jul 24, 2013

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, QI’ve been very stupid.  I got involved with chatting a guy on line from overseas.  I developed an on-line friendship with him and went and visited him.  We had an amazing four days together.  I revisited him once more, met a few of his friends, and for me there were fireworks sexually and emotionally.   I completely fell for...

How to Say “No” Nicely

How to Say “No” Nicely

May 14, 2013

We’ve all been there. We’ve felt a connection with someone, and as with the majority of dating nowadays, it often occurs online.  We’ve sent a few flirty messages on the dating site, exchanged emails and mobile numbers, and the flirty connections have continued, so much so that your phone has beeped at you more in the last week than in the whole of last month!...

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Mar 22, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, Greetings! My name is Gregory. Recently I came out of the closet. I am 45 years old and feel that I did so rather late in life. Anyway, I just do not want a “hook-up” anymore, but I want to settle down with a significant other. I want to rush things and begin looking, but a friend says, No. He says that I need to let that special...