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Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Jul 4, 2016

I have heard it said so many times before.  “As soon as I get married, I know all these things will change.” I’d like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have not been married before, to consider the following truths I believe will cause every present and future marriage to be the healthy and wonderful experience God had in mind when he...

Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Sep 15, 2015

The scripture used by many conservative Christians to define marriage as one-man-one-woman (#1M1W), doesn’t actually define marriage at all.  In fact, Jesus never defined marriage. The famous passage in Matthew 19 goes like this: Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”...

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Sep 14, 2015

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that...

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

Jul 31, 2015

The most dangerous thing about looking for and falling in love is dwelling in your head for too long. I admit I love being in love. I love thinking about it. I love the Disney movies that celebrate it with those saccharine sweet story lines and the runaway pop hits. (No, I will not Let It Go!) I am a romantic at heart, and I admit to being very adept in using...

God of Scandal

God of Scandal

Aug 5, 2014

I met my fiance Diane at a Charismatic Episcopal Church about seven years ago. In case you aren’t familiar with the CEC (most people aren’t), imagine smooshing together an Assembly of God congregation with a Catholic church that rejects the Pope and wants it’s male priests to be able to marry. If you can do that, you’ll have a pretty...

Rethinking “Rethinking Sex” …

Rethinking “Rethinking Sex” …

Jul 22, 2014

Recently I wrote a post called “Rethinking Sex”, which was a response to another blog post that appeared on my friend Andy Gill’s blog. I was compelled to write a post about Christian sexual ethics largely because over the past two years I have lived in an evangelical Christian bubble know as Bible college. During my time in college, I have seen just how...

How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

Jun 24, 2014

This morning, Dolce and I received a lovely text from a young priest at the church we attended for some years before moving to Massachusetts. It’s part of a socially conservative new denomination which strives to reunite the liturgical, evangelical, and charismatic Christan streams. Dolce and I were active in leadership and in the life of the church when...

Marriage Advice I Wish I Had

We all need help with our relationships. And we’ll take advice from all kinds of sources, as long as it’s good advice.  Recently, this list has been making its rounds in the press.  Gerald Rogers wrote this one night, contemplating his failed marriage and what he wished he’d known or done better. Though these are the comments of a straight man...