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From Ashes, Pure Delight

From Ashes, Pure Delight

Mar 8, 2014

There’s something amazing about spending time with the people we love… Psalm 149 1   Praise the Lord! Sing to the Lord a new song, his praise in the assembly of the faithful. 2   Let Israel be glad in its Maker; let the children of Zion rejoice in their King. 3   Let them praise his name with dancing, making melody to him with tambourine and lyre. 4   For the...

Come On, Baby, Light My Fire

Come On, Baby, Light My Fire

Mar 3, 2014

One of the things I love most about the building where I work is the wood-burning fireplace. I love many things about that fireplace … the crackle of the wood when it’s burning, the hearth where people often sit or stand to warm themselves, the conversations that take place in front of the roaring fire … I truly love that fireplace. My...

Life’s Most Important Lesson

Life’s Most Important Lesson

Jan 18, 2014

In a TV interview, Sherri Shepherd from The View revealed that she believes LGBT people are going to hell. Her interview reminded me of the most important lesson I’ve learned in life so far. As humans, everything we do is a response out of two things… fear and love. Every choice we make derives from these two emotions. The thing which hinders us...

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Oct 31, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, I’ve dated girls all of my adult life, with one experience in high school which has left me with the lasting impression that guys are really for me. I’ve been single for two years after the breakdown and resulting divorce from my ex wife.  For the last couple of months I’ve been chatting with guys in gay chat...

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Aug 14, 2013

As an older guy who’s experienced life and been around a bit, I often find myself being asked by my younger friends for tips on love and life. How do you do know when a relationship is right for you? What things should I do or not do? What are the early warning signals that things are heading south? So I polled some of my other “mature”...

Love Better, Love More

Love Better, Love More

Dec 4, 2012

Yesterday, after spending most of my morning and afternoon working on one of my last papers for the semester, I asked my friend Abe over for dinner. A former seminarian, fellow contemplative, and previous classmate from college, I love spending time with him. We only recently reconnected, but even in such a short time, I’ve become incredibly grateful for our...

Rescue Passages

Rescue Passages

Sep 17, 2012

This lifeline is for all the people who have been beaten up by church and family, told they were unacceptable to God because they did not live up to someone else’s religious standards. For those who have had their faith shakened, who have had the gift of Scripture turned on them, hammered by “clobber passages”, below is a selection of...

One word that makes all the difference

There I was, minding my own business, innocently browsing through endless Facebook posts from my infinite number of friends (never been more popular in my entire life!), and I noticed that one buddy in a moment of excitement and adoration wrote out the doxology as his status. “Praise God to whom all blessings flow. Praise him all creatures here below....

Meditation over Morning Coffee: Grace & the Law (ongoing)

You know that principle of synchronicity? It’s the idea that a coincidence of events can somehow seem related in a meaningful way. I’ve been re-invigorated lately by new perspectives on Grace — that whole simple yet staggeringly profound force of God’s favor given to us, completely undeserved and unearned by us. In fact, we CAN’T...