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3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

Jul 31, 2015

The most dangerous thing about looking for and falling in love is dwelling in your head for too long. I admit I love being in love. I love thinking about it. I love the Disney movies that celebrate it with those saccharine sweet story lines and the runaway pop hits. (No, I will not Let It Go!) I am a romantic at heart, and I admit to being very adept in using...

A Hand to Hold. Thoughts after a Lesbian Wedding.

A Hand to Hold. Thoughts after a Lesbian Wedding.

May 26, 2015

Last weekend I had the privilege and honor of attending the wedding of my friends, Cara and Leah. They are such a beautiful and loving couple, and they are both very active members of our church community at New Heart. The love that they have shared over the years has been able to challenge the beliefs held by even our pastor, Danny Cortez. How special it must...

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Feb 10, 2015

I was hoping to visit a new church this past Sunday, and looked up an old church I use to attend when I first moved to the city several years ago. I was really disappointed to see that the founding pastor had left and that the church seemed to have gone in a different direction. I decided to browse through their website to try to get a feel for what the church...

Christian Perfection?

Christian Perfection?

Jan 14, 2015

Holiness can sometimes look more like something out of “50 Shades of Grey” than something that came out of church.   Okay. That did it. I was chewing on an idea for a post, feeling like I needed to write it “for the good of all humanity” (ego much?), and then got distracted by this latest tidbit on Facebook:  “It is therefore...

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Jul 14, 2014

When it comes to relationships, I’ve heard plenty of horror stories of couples that just don’t get along, fight all the time, and have to take heroic measures to keep their other half happy — or at the very least, not their worst enemy. But what is it that can be the best way to determine if your relationship is a healthy one or if it should go the way of the...

Compelled

Compelled

Jun 10, 2014

It’s been three years since it happened, and I can still remember it as if it were yesterday… Last Friday, I had the chance to sit down with a friend of a friend who is currently interviewing people for a soon-to-be-released nonprofit film called Compelling Love. Going into the interview, I only briefly watched the Kickstarter video and glanced at the Facebook...

To My Wonderful Gay Children… Welcome Home

  More today from Susan Cottrell’s “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… My wonderful children, who just so happen to be gay. Has it been awhile since you have felt at home in your life? With your family? At a church? With me? There is a story of a woman on a long road trip vacation with ten family members. Near the beginning of the trip, her...

Marriage Equality – A Lost Opportunity

Marriage Equality – A Lost Opportunity

Jun 2, 2014

  “The saddest part of disagreements over marriage equality has nothing to do with the legal question but everything to do with Christianity’s failure as a whole to lead in the right direction on this issue. Christians are missing a huge opportunity to not only love and encourage our own Christian LGBT friends, neighbors, and family members,...

Same-Sex Marriage: Why We Have to Go Beyond Jesus

Same-Sex Marriage: Why We Have to Go Beyond Jesus

May 20, 2014

In my experience, the conservative stance on the issue of same-sex marriage really isn’t founded on the handful of passages from Leviticus and Paul. Yes, those get quoted a lot, but the interpretation of those passages is often driven by a larger prior conviction, namely, that Jesus clearly stated that marriage is between a man and a woman, thus creating...

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

Mar 10, 2014

When conservative Christians find out I’m gay, they almost all say the same thing: “I know gay people think Christians hate them, but I don’t. I love gay people. I may not agree with them, but I love them.” You’d be surprised how often I hear this. Christians are constantly telling me how much they love me. If they treat me disapprovingly, it’s because they...