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Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

World AIDS Day. Live Aware.

World AIDS Day. Live Aware.

Dec 1, 2016

  December 1st is World AIDS Day, a day dedicated to remembering those lost to HIV/AIDS infection around the world. But it is also a day for raising awareness, for reminding all of us to live our lives responsibly, safely. Fast Facts More than 1.2 million people in the US are living with HIV, and 1 in 8 of them don’t know it. From 2005 to 2014, the...

Invisible: HIV+ in Church

Invisible: HIV+ in Church

Aug 11, 2016

Daniel was out with his boyfriend the night he learned that he had contracted HIV. They had been dating for eight months, and had been friends for a year and a half prior to dating. They were sexually active, and Daniel trusted him completely. They had agreed to be monogamous, and he had no reason to believe his boyfriend would cheat. That night, however, there...

What Gay Men Need to Know About STDs

What Gay Men Need to Know About STDs

Mar 22, 2016

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Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Dec 3, 2015

HIV in 2015 in the United States just doesn’t compare to the AIDS crisis of the ‘80s and ‘90s. There have been radical improvements in treatment and life expectancy since then. But while HIV may no longer be a death sentence in the United States, becoming positive in a society that pretends it didn’t commit atrocities against those with the disease during the...

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Sep 14, 2015

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that...

On Death, Dying, and Those Who Still Wait

On Death, Dying, and Those Who Still Wait

Nov 11, 2014

What follows below is a response to something that was tweeted this past week and which I, in turn, posted on Facebook. It received a slew of likes (I was glad for that). In the evolution of comments away from the original theme, Leslie Maxwell Kaiura commented about how she stumbled upon my blog, and her thoughts on my perspective as a gay Christian man who...

Infected With Religion

Infected With Religion

Aug 6, 2014

Our friend Bobby was a hemophiliac. At one point, he needed a blood transfusion; unfortunately, Bobby received his transfusion in the 80s, before they thoroughly screened donated blood for the HIV virus. Bobby was among the last children who caught the HIV virus from a blood transfusion. We all have a God-shaped vacuum — I truly believe we do — a...

If I’ve Survived to Achieve it All

If I’ve Survived to Achieve it All

May 4, 2014

If I should achieve all of the rights in my world as a same-gender loving man. If I am welcomed into the arms of the Church as such, and feel that justice has finally been served. If that’s my litmus test for how far Christianity has evolved, and I turn a blind eye to the rest of the world. Love.  If that’s the extent of my love for the “least...

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Jan 4, 2014

Romance and dating are a big part of the human experience. We love it. We thrive on it. It brings color and flavor to our daily grind, and a jolt of excitement to our work-a-day week. Some of us jump right into physical intimacy with someone we may have just met, and some of us prefer to wait until a relationship has been built and we’re confident this person...