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When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

Nov 3, 2016

In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we were: deeply in love, and now deeply heartbroken. We had lived in a horrible...

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Oct 6, 2015

“Oh look, the cute guy messaged me first!” I exclaim. “Let me see.” My friends reply. “Never mind, he’s not my type.” “How do you know?” “He’s a ‘no fats, fems, blacks, Asians, Caucasians with brown eyes, guys who don’t like the color pink, guys who onlydrink  whiskey, and guys who breathe’ kind of guy.” Haven’t we all been on the receiving end of this? I know...

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Sep 25, 2015

Dear Guys, Thanks to social media, we can now condense anything we want to into 140 characters. If you can’t, then you really can’t stay relevant. This idea overflows into the online dating profile. How do we capture someone’s attention in a short span but also try to convey a little bit about what we are? Some of us don’t even try, there is nothing in the...

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Sep 23, 2015

Online dating has become a fixed part of our reality in recent years. People used to laugh at it, but with millions using dating sites every day — and marriages sometimes resulting from them — why limit your options?  Here’s a cool bit of trivia for ya: 80% of gay men now meet their long-term partners online.  Interested now? Here’s a...

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Aug 24, 2013

  Sigh.  Another coffee-date finished. Nice enough guy, good conversation, but no sparks. Not gonna happen. Cross that one off the prospective husband list. Next! Sometimes this whole dating thing is exhausting. It’s draining, breaking the ice initially, generating  conversation, then the meet-up. Emotions jump into play at some point along the way. Excitement...

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Mar 22, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, Greetings! My name is Gregory. Recently I came out of the closet. I am 45 years old and feel that I did so rather late in life. Anyway, I just do not want a “hook-up” anymore, but I want to settle down with a significant other. I want to rush things and begin looking, but a friend says, No. He says that I need to let that special...

Confessions of a Sheltered Gay: Grindr

Confessions of a Sheltered Gay: Grindr

Dec 18, 2012

Is romance dead in gay culture? If you’re looking for emotional stability, I can successfully say that you will not find it through Grindr. I recently downloaded the app on my phone after hearing about it for at least a year from several gay friends. “You HAVE to get it!” they would all say. I knew what I was signing up for. I’d read several articles about the...