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Mama Bear God

Mama Bear God

May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or regrets than actual memories. It  may be the apex  of celebration – like for my friends who on Friday finalized adoption of their twin boys. But the holiday may also be gut wrenching, for...

My Straight Boyfriend

My Straight Boyfriend

Mar 4, 2015

I think I was about six when it dawned on me that there was something different about me. The epiphany occurred one Saturday morning when my mom and I went to a local hardware store to pick up some garden supplies. Once he caught sight of us, the clerk behind the counter remarked, “What a beautiful little girl! What’s your name sweetie?” I was mortified. From...

11 Reasons Christianity Needs Feminism

11 Reasons Christianity Needs Feminism

May 21, 2014

Christianity should be synonymous with feminism. As the religious belief with Christ in its name, we should be the ones leading the bout for gender equality. Unfortunately, one of the groups of people that perpetuate a sexist mentality in society is our Christian Churches. Patriarchy, male-headship, and gender bias is rampant in Christian culture; all of which...

Male or Female? Yes.

Male or Female? Yes.

May 15, 2014

  Sarah Gronert  is a 27-year-old retired German tennis player. She won a total of ten titles in her career and made it into the top 200 players in the world. Sarah was also intersex, with both male and female genitalia. She had surgery at the age of 19 to become legally a female. Intricacies of the universe are reason to say, “Hm, what a magnificent...

Do Transgender People Scare You?

Do Transgender People Scare You?

May 13, 2014

“I can’t remember a time that I didn’t know that I was a girl.” Janet Mock, on HBO’s “The Out List” When I came out of the closet as a Mom of an LGBTQ child and an ally,”T” was not really part of my experience. I had never met a trans person (that I knew of) in my life. In the last year, on this circuitous route my life has taken, I’ve come to know...

A Mother’s Day Card to All LGBT Parents – Including Gay Dads

A Mother’s Day Card to All LGBT Parents – Including Gay Dads

May 8, 2013

Recently, author Jennifer Finney Boylan commented about her transgender experience: “After all these years, my own identity has wound up less altered than I had expected. It should not have been a surprise, perhaps, but the most shocking revelation after ten years in the female sex is that mostly I am the same person I always was, gender notwithstanding.” Even...

Bringing Up Bubber: My Son Wears Girl Clothes

Bringing Up Bubber: My Son Wears Girl Clothes

Apr 15, 2013

My son wears girl clothes. He doesn’t dress himself yet, mind you. He’s only 9 months old, so we still do that for him. But, he wears a few outfits that are clearly made for girls. And he looks good in them. Before becoming a parent, I thought that the days of rigid gender definitions for clothes, toys and basically anything a baby needs or would want were...

Who Made Me the Gender-Role Police?

Who Made Me the Gender-Role Police?

Apr 9, 2013

In a story in The New Yorker magazine titled “About a Boy: Transgender surgery at age sixteen,”  Margaret Talbot talks about how many more females are coming out as transgender now than in the past.  It reflects the amazing progress trans people have made in recent years. But it also made me aware of my own subtle bias about gender-role conformity. My doctors...