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The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

Jul 28, 2017

I recently made a friend via the internet that I’ve been chatting with for a few weeks and this guy, who lives in Egypt, had recently been going through a tough time of trying to believe if or how God loves him as he is, being gay and all. He seemed very focused on the Bible and those six infamous “clobber” passages, and I confessed I’m not the best at...

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

Jul 20, 2017

It is never a good feeling when you get an email blast from a beloved organization you have supported for many years that begins “Due to irreconcilable differences …” That’s what shook Facebook and social media July 19th. And the posts and comments exploded. What happened? Why? Who’s to blame? What happens next, what about …?...

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

May 30, 2016

For many Christians, the belief in “waiting until marriage” for sexual activity is often deeply motivated by their faith. But sometimes hiding underneath those convictions can be other unhealthy issues that may actually impede a happy sex life once they are married. We live in a culture that is sex obsessed. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to beer to...

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Feb 18, 2015

Hang out for three days with 1,300 people like yourself, and—if you’re a writer, at least—it’s interesting to hear what words keep coming up. Over the long weekend at January’s Gay Christian Network conference, I shared a meal with companions from several of my worlds: trans/nonbinary people, Episcopalians, bridge builders across hot-button divides. I took part...

Moving Forward

Moving Forward

Jan 9, 2015

Westboro Baptist Church is going to picket our GCN conference and I am sad…sad for them…sad that they have not moved on. I feel the majority of those from our conference are at a good place in life, and their picketing will not really get to them. We are a resilient people and our community is full of love and forgiveness. Many have come from homes...

The Right Way to Love God?

The Right Way to Love God?

Jul 14, 2014

  What does a “godly” person look like? Is there a right way to love God? Is there a correct path to follow Jesus? I just returned from my fourth “Christian” conference of the year. January I was in Chicago for the Gay Christian Network Annual Conference, where some 700 people gathered to celebrate, learn, and share community. Rob...

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

Mar 10, 2014

When conservative Christians find out I’m gay, they almost all say the same thing: “I know gay people think Christians hate them, but I don’t. I love gay people. I may not agree with them, but I love them.” You’d be surprised how often I hear this. Christians are constantly telling me how much they love me. If they treat me disapprovingly, it’s because they...

My Highs and Lows of Transgender Advocacy

My Highs and Lows of Transgender Advocacy

Jan 15, 2014

Sometimes I preach to the choir, sometimes to the genuinely curious and sensitive; at other times to hostile skeptics, but often to myself. I had the distinct honor and privilege to do a workshop at this year’s Gay Christian Network Conference (GCN) last weekend. I cannot begin to describe what it is like to be among 700 attendees who have one thing in...