Where Faith, the Real World & Gay Life intersect!

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Oct 10, 2016

Several years ago, as I was journeying out of the traditional theological view of gay marriage, I read an extraordinary book by Dr. James Brownson titled Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing The Church’s Debate on Same-Sex Relationships. Bible, Gender, Sexuality is a thing of theological beauty: elegant, persuasive, and deeply compassionate. It was the book that...

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

May 30, 2016

For many Christians, the belief in “waiting until marriage” for sexual activity is often deeply motivated by their faith. But sometimes hiding underneath those convictions can be other unhealthy issues that may actually impede a happy sex life once they are married. We live in a culture that is sex obsessed. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to beer to...

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Sep 14, 2015

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that...

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Aug 18, 2015

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people...

Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Jul 24, 2014

  “Sex with you is so good, we should celebrate it by having sex.” Do LGBTQ people have better sex than straight people? Maybe they do. Just maybe they do. 🙂 This is Rob, Susan’s husband, writing today. Great sex has nothing to do with whether or not you are gay or straight, but think about it… I think one of the keys to great, intimate, passionate, wild,...

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Respect, Trust, Communication, and Sex: All parts of a great relationship

Jul 14, 2014

When it comes to relationships, I’ve heard plenty of horror stories of couples that just don’t get along, fight all the time, and have to take heroic measures to keep their other half happy — or at the very least, not their worst enemy. But what is it that can be the best way to determine if your relationship is a healthy one or if it should go the way of the...

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Can You Get An STD Without Sex?

Jan 4, 2014

Romance and dating are a big part of the human experience. We love it. We thrive on it. It brings color and flavor to our daily grind, and a jolt of excitement to our work-a-day week. Some of us jump right into physical intimacy with someone we may have just met, and some of us prefer to wait until a relationship has been built and we’re confident this person...

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Nov 29, 2013

When it comes to condoms, a lot of what you like is down to personal preference. So if you’re new to the dating pool or if you’re an old pro, how you roll is all up to you. While one person might like a ribbed mint flavour condom (who?), someone else won’t be able to get enough of a chocolate-flavour ultra-thin condom. Then there are the...

Confessions of a Sheltered Gay: Grindr

Confessions of a Sheltered Gay: Grindr

Dec 18, 2012

Is romance dead in gay culture? If you’re looking for emotional stability, I can successfully say that you will not find it through Grindr. I recently downloaded the app on my phone after hearing about it for at least a year from several gay friends. “You HAVE to get it!” they would all say. I knew what I was signing up for. I’d read several articles about the...