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Fear & Evolving Faith

Fear & Evolving Faith

Oct 25, 2014

Throughout my entire faith journey with all of its up’s and down’s I have tried to remain rooted in a community of faith. I believe that humans, created in the image of the Triune God who is, fundamentally and eternally, a relationship, have an intrinsic need for community. It is our deepest longing- to be united with God and with one another. And it is when we...

Stupid Religion

Stupid Religion

May 24, 2014

  I just had another one of those conversations.  The conversation I seem to have a lot these days with my Christian friends. Gay and straight. About what it means to be a Christian. Am I still a “good Christian” if I don’t go to church? Am I a good Christian if I cuss, if I have sex with my girlfriend or boyfriend? And of course, that one question that...

Big Problems Just Mean a Big Life

Big Problems Just Mean a Big Life

Mar 2, 2014

People with small lives don’t have big problems. That was the nugget of wisdom that fell out of my mouth during a talk with a couple of friends about the $h!t-storms they were experiencing recently. Drama and trauma with friends. Bosses. Legal issues. Relationship issues. Money issues. Crises that just seem to happen out of nowhere, that blindside you. And...

The Messiest Present

The Messiest Present

Dec 24, 2013

The incarnation is the complete refutation of every human system and institution that claims to control, possess, and distribute God. Whatever any church or religious leader may claim in regard to their particular access to God or control over your experience of God, the incarnation is the last word: God loves the world — Michael Spencer, Mere Churchianity...

Tying God’s Hands with Our Expectations

Tying God’s Hands with Our Expectations

May 17, 2013

One of the things I love about my “new spirituality” friends is that they’ve helped increase my faith in God.  They walk around with an expectation that good things are going to happen to them.  They speak positive things “into the Universe,” and they believe that good things will “manifest” to them.  By any other name, that’s faith. Of course, some of them...

The “Ex-Gay” and “Enough Faith” Myths, and Why They Failed Me

The “Ex-Gay” and “Enough Faith” Myths, and Why They Failed Me

Mar 21, 2013

Ihave never been an ex-gay. I’ve never gone through an ex-gay ministry, or tried an ex-gay program, and never went into a live-in camp where gay men are taught to behave as straight men. Despite all of this, I can say without any hesitation that ex-gay ministries are no good whatsoever. In fact, they present a great deal of harm to LGBT people, especially LGBT...

Breath…

Breath…

Mar 12, 2013

Breath. It’s something most of us take for granted. In. Out. In. Out. The average human breathes between 18,000 and 30,000 times a day. Yet we don’t notice is most of the time. Air enters us. Air leaves us. It sustains us, and only when it’s absent do we notice just how necessary it is for sustaining life. My class on pneumatology (the study of the Holy Spirit)...

Misfiring Faith

I come from a faith tradition that believes in miracles. We believe in divine healing, in supernatural provision, uncommon blessing, in Gifts of the Spirit like speaking in tongues and prophesy. We believe that God still speaks and moves today like he did in Bible times. But we also sometimes carry a heavy burden of “faith”. It’s the doctrine...