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From the Scars of Evangelical Church to New Hope…

From the Scars of Evangelical Church to New Hope…

Aug 9, 2016

I grew up in the Evangelical Church. From moment I was a baby, I was in church every time the doors were open. We were taught about God’s love and grace ever since I could remember, but also that God was a God of holiness and wrath. You see, we could not talk about God’s love without also talking about his wrath. From a very young age, I sensed that...

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

Aug 3, 2016

“The tribe often thinks the visionary has turned his back on them. When, in fact, the visionary has simply turned his face to the future.” ― Ray A. Davis “Going back” in ex-gay speak means returning to the gay “lifestyle.” During my years as an ex-gay leader, I rarely said “lifestyle,” but “going back to being gay” was a stigmatizing description that the ex-gay...

The Heart Matters. When Christianity ignores human experience…

The Heart Matters. When Christianity ignores human experience…

Jun 22, 2016

This morning, as I was scrolling through my feedly app, I came across a particular post from an ex-gay blog called “Your Other Brothers.” (They would probably object to being labeled as ex-gay, but that to me seems the best approximation of their work.) Much as I disagree with the guys on the blog, I enjoy reading them. They are figuring life out the best way...

Review: “My Exodus” by Alan Chambers

Review: “My Exodus” by Alan Chambers

Oct 8, 2015

My Exodus: From Fear to Grace by Alan Chambers Zondervan, Sept. 2015 224 pages   Alan Chambers’ newly released book, My Exodus: From Fear to Grace, written with his wife, Leslie, is self described as “ . . . simply our story. It’s a story about our parents, our childhood, our coming of age, our marriage, and our journey out of a system of beliefs driven by...

Exgay Therapy: Lost, Confused, Destroyed

Reparative Therapy is splashing across national news again. It is a highly controversial “brain-washing” program to help LGBT people become heterosexual by changing their outward behaviors and trying to adjust their thinking patterns. This system is discredited by all reputable medical and pyschiatric professional associations, yet some religious...

How ‘Bout Those 49ers?

How ‘Bout Those 49ers?

Feb 12, 2015

I am so grateful for my friendship with Chris. I am blessed that he has been a constant force in my life for almost twenty years; and although we live on opposite coasts now, our friendship transcends the thousands of miles that separate us. He telephoned me one evening shortly after Sergio and I moved to North Carolina in October of 2011. “How ya’ll doin? So...

A Father’s Love

A Father’s Love

Jan 27, 2015

It’s been almost twenty years since New Hope’s family weekend, and there’s so much I don’t remember. I’ve pored through my journals and surprisingly I wasn’t writing much during that time. By that point, I think I had completely shut down and retreated more and more into my shell. All I know with any certainty is that my soul had plummeted into one of the...

Outside the Lines

Outside the Lines

Nov 24, 2014

L.T. Miller shares another scene in a continuing story about his adventures in (and coming out of) an ex-gay ministry.   If you’ve been reading my posts then you probably realize by now that I like to skip around. My thoughts have always been tangential. I get distracted easily, forget what somebody told me just five minutes before, and repeat myself...

The Anointing

The Anointing

Nov 10, 2014

L.T. Miller shares another scene in a continuing story about his adventures in (and coming out of) an ex-gay ministry. Lord’s Land is nestled on twenty-eight magical acres near the town of Albion on the spectacular northern California coast. Central fields are surrounded by dense forests of firs and redwoods as far as the eye can see. Rhododendrons and lush...

Beginnings

Beginnings

Nov 3, 2014

L.T. Miller shares another scene in a continuing story about his adventures in (and coming out of) an ex-gay ministry. I have always felt different – especially growing up in a small town. As old time southerners would say: “there’s something peculiar about that boy . . . he’s about as queer as a three dollar bill”. When I was a toddler in the early seventies,...