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Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Jesus Never Defined Marriage

Sep 15, 2015

The scripture used by many conservative Christians to define marriage as one-man-one-woman (#1M1W), doesn’t actually define marriage at all.  In fact, Jesus never defined marriage. The famous passage in Matthew 19 goes like this: Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”...

Is Divorce Really Wrong?

Is Divorce Really Wrong?

Aug 7, 2014

In the past, my beliefs about divorce were as black and white as the text on the pages of the Bible. From this legalistic perspective, there were really only two conditions within which divorce would be acceptable — Jesus’ teaching about adultery in Matt. 19:9, and Paul’s teaching about an unbelieving spouse departing in 1Co. 7:15. I believed that divorce...

God of Scandal

God of Scandal

Aug 5, 2014

I met my fiance Diane at a Charismatic Episcopal Church about seven years ago. In case you aren’t familiar with the CEC (most people aren’t), imagine smooshing together an Assembly of God congregation with a Catholic church that rejects the Pope and wants it’s male priests to be able to marry. If you can do that, you’ll have a pretty...

Marriage Advice I Wish I Had

We all need help with our relationships. And we’ll take advice from all kinds of sources, as long as it’s good advice.  Recently, this list has been making its rounds in the press.  Gerald Rogers wrote this one night, contemplating his failed marriage and what he wished he’d known or done better. Though these are the comments of a straight man...

How to Survive a Breakup and Not End Up a Psycho

How to Survive a Breakup and Not End Up a Psycho

Jul 3, 2013

What do you do when somebody you’ve loved your entire life suddenly decides to call it quits? Are you going to pretend that it’s okay and walk away with a full megawatt smile plastered on your face just to make him feel that you’re not affected at all (even if you’re slowly dying inside and secretly wishing he’d come after you)? Or are you going to cry like a...

Plan B – When God’s Promises Don’t Work Out

Plan B – When God’s Promises Don’t Work Out

Apr 24, 2013

The morning started out like most of them do for me.  I paced my livingroom and kitchen with a cup of coffee in my hand, and tried to focus on the reality of the presence of God. A tough sell, some mornings. And for some reason, an old unanswered question was rolling through my head again. What went wrong?  Why didn’t it turn out the way I envisioned, the way I...

BYOB – Gay and Single (Again) After 40

BYOB – Gay and Single (Again) After 40

Jan 19, 2013

I’ll just call him X.  Since he is no longer part of my daily life, and this really isn’t about him anyway,  there’s no need to drag his name into this. We split last year. Now I’m a gay man, well-past the 40-year mark, adjusting to living alone, taking care of myself, and being a single-dad to two wonderful dogs. I’ve still got the house — and I guess...

10 Questions You Should Answer Before Entering into Same-Sex Marriage

10 Questions You Should Answer Before Entering into Same-Sex Marriage

Nov 20, 2012

We have turned a corner on the question of same-sex marriage.  This past election day, three more states extended basic civil rights to LGBT Americans, and the trend is not likely to stop.  That is very good news. It is time, therefore, for us to have a serious talk.  Just because we as a community have made strides in regard to marriage, does not mean that you...