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Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Aug 24, 2013

  Sigh.  Another coffee-date finished. Nice enough guy, good conversation, but no sparks. Not gonna happen. Cross that one off the prospective husband list. Next! Sometimes this whole dating thing is exhausting. It’s draining, breaking the ice initially, generating  conversation, then the meet-up. Emotions jump into play at some point along the way. Excitement...

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Relationship Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me

Aug 14, 2013

As an older guy who’s experienced life and been around a bit, I often find myself being asked by my younger friends for tips on love and life. How do you do know when a relationship is right for you? What things should I do or not do? What are the early warning signals that things are heading south? So I polled some of my other “mature”...

How to Say “No” Nicely

How to Say “No” Nicely

May 14, 2013

We’ve all been there. We’ve felt a connection with someone, and as with the majority of dating nowadays, it often occurs online.  We’ve sent a few flirty messages on the dating site, exchanged emails and mobile numbers, and the flirty connections have continued, so much so that your phone has beeped at you more in the last week than in the whole of last month!...

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Apr 25, 2013

In my role as a Dating and Relationship Coach I see a number of different clients come through my doors.   Age-disparity relationships are becoming more and more frequent and commonplace now-a-days. In the straight world it has been commonplace for women to be attracted to older men, and many settle down with the best hunter-gatherer she can find. This gives...

The Fantasy of Dating an Older Man

The Fantasy of Dating an Older Man

Apr 17, 2013

It is commonplace in today’s society to have age-disparity relationships.  In the straight world many men like to have an attractive younger lady on their arm, and many younger women have walked the well-trodden path of having an older man as a husband as the benefits are obvious: established career, home, money and status. In the gay world those attractions...

You Need Some Help!

You Need Some Help!

Apr 1, 2013

  As a single guy, feeling the full weight of taking care of the house, the yard, the laundry, the cooking, the dogs, a full time job …, I think I now know exactly why God gave Adam a “suitable helper”. Funny, how every single person I know is focused on finding Mr. Right or Miss Right. The desire for companionship is strong in us humans....

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Mar 22, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, Greetings! My name is Gregory. Recently I came out of the closet. I am 45 years old and feel that I did so rather late in life. Anyway, I just do not want a “hook-up” anymore, but I want to settle down with a significant other. I want to rush things and begin looking, but a friend says, No. He says that I need to let that special...

Dating Life in Your 40s

Dating Life in Your 40s

Feb 26, 2013

Next month I hit the big four zero. Yep, I’ll be 40 years old. I’ve actually been around that long!  I am joining the ranks of the middle-aged gay community.   I am living an openly gay life, and I’m part of the new generation that is evolving in the gay community — the first openly gay generations were pretty much wiped out during the AIDS epidemic in...

Dating and Finding “The One”

Dating and Finding “The One”

Feb 18, 2013

Why does dating seem like looking for a parking space when going to the supermarket? All the good ones are taken, and the ones that are perfect are allocated for someone else and under no uncertain terms are you allowed to park there. Is it something you’ve done wrong?  Have you missed your time slot, and are now destined to circle aimlessly around, or pick the...