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Naked and Unashamed

Naked and Unashamed

May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the line “Sex is evil. Sex is bad. Save it for the one you love.” It’s funny, yet so terribly sad. Add to this situation that I was gay. Growing up gay in the evangelical church added...

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got...

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Sep 25, 2015

Dear Guys, Thanks to social media, we can now condense anything we want to into 140 characters. If you can’t, then you really can’t stay relevant. This idea overflows into the online dating profile. How do we capture someone’s attention in a short span but also try to convey a little bit about what we are? Some of us don’t even try, there is nothing in the...

Dear Guys, If you want it to work, you gotta stick around

Dear Guys, If you want it to work, you gotta stick around

Sep 11, 2015

D ear Guys, You know who you are: the ones that I see as potential boyfriend material. I will always be guarded around you. Maybe even after we get married. That’s just who I am. I’m mixed up and complicated. Just like you, when you’re on Grindr and you say you want to settle down, but jump into the first guys pants that you can.  Honestly, I don’t...

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

Jul 31, 2015

The most dangerous thing about looking for and falling in love is dwelling in your head for too long. I admit I love being in love. I love thinking about it. I love the Disney movies that celebrate it with those saccharine sweet story lines and the runaway pop hits. (No, I will not Let It Go!) I am a romantic at heart, and I admit to being very adept in using...

My 2 Cents About Dating …

My 2 Cents About Dating …

Jan 28, 2015

My 2 cents worth about dating. To all you single Christians out there, gay and straight: Before you put rules and constraints on yourself of who you can and cannot date, first figure out what your goal in dating is. If it is specifically/exclusively to get married, then yeah, you want a tight filter. Only date those who are likely spouse-material — all...

How To Avoid Finding the Wrong Person Online

How To Avoid Finding the Wrong Person Online

Dec 12, 2013

Over the past decade, online dating has been an increasingly popular method for just about anyone and everyone to find dates or activity partners. It provides a certain degree of simplicity and ease. Instead of being forced to engage in sometimes awkward social situations, dating sites offer members a platform to network with like-minded individuals without...

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Back in the Dating Game – What Makes a Good Condom?

Nov 29, 2013

When it comes to condoms, a lot of what you like is down to personal preference. So if you’re new to the dating pool or if you’re an old pro, how you roll is all up to you. While one person might like a ribbed mint flavour condom (who?), someone else won’t be able to get enough of a chocolate-flavour ultra-thin condom. Then there are the...

Lack of Sex with Older Boyfriend

Lack of Sex with Older Boyfriend

Oct 3, 2013

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, Q My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years now and although we are still in love, I am having a lot of doubts about our future. I am 33 years old and came out when I met my boyfriend. Obviously I experimented with men before taking the step to come out, but overall my experience is fairly limited. I fell madly...