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Dear Dad…

Dear Dad…

Jan 12, 2015

There were many sleepless nights during my time in the New Hope Program. I would often escape into the prayer room after the others went to bed and relish the solitude.  The décor of the room amused me.  As I sat there alone one restless evening – surrounded by an eclectic hodgepodge of plaid sofas, tacky lamps with yellowed lampshades, and ugly artwork that...

Mount Tam

Mount Tam

Oct 20, 2014

This is another scene in a continuing story that L.T. Miller will be sharing with us over the coming weeks about his adventures in (and coming out of) an ex-gay ministry. January 6, 1996. We hiked to the top of Mount Tamalpais – our first outing as a group. It was a gorgeous day –  no fog, not a cloud in the sky, and unseasonably warm. Once we reached the...

What Do Woodstock & LGBTQ Have in Common?

What Do Woodstock & LGBTQ Have in Common?

Sep 25, 2014

I came upon a child of God, He was walking along the road And I asked him where are you going, And this he told me… “Well maybe it’s just the time of year, Or maybe it’s the time of man I don’t know who I am, But you know life is for learning” – Woodstock, Joni Mitchell It’s been 45 years, but you may remember...

Coming Out and Letting Go

Coming Out and Letting Go

Sep 4, 2014

“The energy of avoidance became too great to ignore. I broke. After nearly 20 years of hiding and running away, I made a willful decision to face the pain, address the guilt and talk about the shame. This time, I wasn’t giving up; I was letting go.” Today, I am honored to feature a guest post from my friend Tim Rymel.  I hope your heart is...

A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Parents Who Disown Their Gay Son on Video

A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Parents Who Disown Their Gay Son on Video

Aug 29, 2014

Another young person has been thrown out of his home for coming out as gay. I have written about this on a number of occasions covering such events in the United States, Nigeria and Uganda. This time the event was recorded. Trying to imagine the evil some people can impart on their children is no longer necessary. Now we can hear them in their own self...

3 Boundaries You Must Create When Coming Out

3 Boundaries You Must Create When Coming Out

Jun 5, 2014

Do your parents believe God can still “change” you? Have many of your conversations with your parents ended the same as mine, “We’re praying for you. God’s doing a work in you. He’s not finished with you yet. I believe God’s going to change you.” Although hearing this causes pain and feels like rejection, it’s important we understand it comes from a place of...

Authenticity & Determination are the Keys to a Powerful Love

Authenticity & Determination are the Keys to a Powerful Love

May 14, 2014

“Be self propelled, believing, daring and un-afraid on your journey. In and under all circumstances be authentically you!” How can you be, or live a life of authenticity when many in society demand conformity? How can you live your truth, love, and best life as a lesbian, when many would prefer you lie, hide, or even change your image, to meet their...

Review: “Mom, I’m Gay” by Susan Cottrell

Review: “Mom, I’m Gay” by Susan Cottrell

May 5, 2014

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Coming Out: Not One More Mile!

Coming Out: Not One More Mile!

Mar 21, 2014

It’s surprising to me how many questions I continue to receive asking what actually happened on the day I came out … what made me completely break down at my office that day, why I didn’t just gather my things and leave when I got upset, whether I have any regrets about the emotion and the words that poured out of me. It was a day that began as any other day …...

Michael Sam: Breaking Stereotypes and Becoming a Star

Michael Sam: Breaking Stereotypes and Becoming a Star

Feb 12, 2014

I played football all throughout school. I was a lot bigger when I was growing up, so I played on the offensive line, usually as a left tackle. I really enjoyed football, even though there were often times that it got tough. I started playing in the 6th grade, and continued playing until I graduated. I wasn’t the best player, but I usually was a starter, and I...