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Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Nov 21, 2017

Friends, there’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you all. It’s been a long time coming, and although my family, friends and classmates know, a lot of people still don’t. So I’m going to get straight to the point: I’m gay. A lot of you might be thinking, “What’s the big deal?,” but it took me 22 years to quit running from this truth about who I am. I first...

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

Aug 3, 2016

“The tribe often thinks the visionary has turned his back on them. When, in fact, the visionary has simply turned his face to the future.” ― Ray A. Davis “Going back” in ex-gay speak means returning to the gay “lifestyle.” During my years as an ex-gay leader, I rarely said “lifestyle,” but “going back to being gay” was a stigmatizing description that the ex-gay...

Orlando Made Me More “Out and Proud” Than Ever

Orlando Made Me More “Out and Proud” Than Ever

Jun 23, 2016

I kept asking myself why the Orlando Shooting affected me so much. It took me a few days, but I finally realized why. When 9/11 happened, it really didn’t do much to me. I was in 6th grade and only 11 years old. It didn’t make sense to me, I couldn’t really understand it, and I had only been on a plane once before. Yet, adults all over the world were...

The Heart Matters. When Christianity ignores human experience…

The Heart Matters. When Christianity ignores human experience…

Jun 22, 2016

This morning, as I was scrolling through my feedly app, I came across a particular post from an ex-gay blog called “Your Other Brothers.” (They would probably object to being labeled as ex-gay, but that to me seems the best approximation of their work.) Much as I disagree with the guys on the blog, I enjoy reading them. They are figuring life out the best way...

Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Jun 6, 2016

Trey Pearson’s recent coming out was a living example of bravery and the importance of taking a chance. Reggie Sylvan looks at how LGBTQ Christian men should be brave, and uses a couple of Biblical passages to talk about how God calls us to have confidence and take a chance. Over the last couple of days, I’ve been greatly inspired by Trey Pearson’s...

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

May 9, 2016

Run of the mill coming out narratives usually consist of an adolescent realizing at some point that he is “not like the other boys.” And after bouts with crushes on friends, adventures in the world of pornography, a “bisexual phase,” and perhaps a period of deep depression or anxiety, he will eventually “come out of the closet” and reveal his “true identity” to...

Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Dec 3, 2015

HIV in 2015 in the United States just doesn’t compare to the AIDS crisis of the ‘80s and ‘90s. There have been radical improvements in treatment and life expectancy since then. But while HIV may no longer be a death sentence in the United States, becoming positive in a society that pretends it didn’t commit atrocities against those with the disease during the...

Easing Out of the Closet on the Down Low: 5 tips for being safe

Easing Out of the Closet on the Down Low: 5 tips for being safe

Jul 8, 2015

Let’s face it: sexuality is a complex thing. Not everyone knows they are born gay or straight right out of the vagina, or even at age 5 or 10 or 50. Whether you are newly out, straight but curious, or just can’t get that one time with your same-sex friend out of your mind, I have five tips if you are going in on the down low so you have a safe, good...

What Bruce Jenner’s Interview Says About Privacy—His and Ours

What Bruce Jenner’s Interview Says About Privacy—His and Ours

May 6, 2015

The nail on my little finger is all sparkles: green mostly, but with glints of purple, peach and pink besides. I owe this burst of glitter to Sally Hansen Snow Globe polish, which my wife claims is the rightful domain of six-year-old girls. For me, it’s the first all-out expression of my genderfluid self—or, more precisely, the vibrant woman who lives in my...

The Visit

The Visit

Jan 19, 2015

I couldn’t believe that I had actually been granted permission to go and pick up Dad without a chaperon. Driving alone in San Francisco for the first time since joining the New Hope program was exhilarating. Treks into the city without a member of leadership present had been explicitly forbidden. And now here I was, enjoying a sense of freedom...