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I Don’t Want Your Cake After All

I Don’t Want Your Cake After All

Oct 30, 2015

When it comes time to get married, I’m going to have to shop around for wedding cakes. I can’t just go to the nearest bakery and commission one. It will have to be specially crafted so that I can eat it and enjoy it. Trust me, on my wedding day I will not be skimpy out on cake, and plan to shove some straight into my husband’s face. Luckily for me, I...

Love is the New Christian

Love is the New Christian

Jul 22, 2014

Rules are the old Christian. And by rules I mean “any rule-by-which-we-always-find-ourselves-deemed-inadequate” is the old Christian. And by old I mean since before Jesus fulfilled the law. Love is the new Christian. And by love I mean complete, unconditional acceptance, embrace, warmth — you know, all the things Jesus did, even to those...

What Do You Smell Like?

What Do You Smell Like?

Jun 30, 2014

I’m a regular volunteer for a local dog rescue here in Phoenix. My primary duties consist of serving as a transporter, a handler, and an occasional dog whisperer. Nearly every Saturday morning, I show up at our boarding facility, never knowing quite what to expect from one week to the next. Usually I just retrieve the dogs assigned to me for transporting to the...

The Myth of Christian Discrimination by Gay People

The Myth of Christian Discrimination by Gay People

Apr 21, 2014

You can’t victimize yourself in a situation you started in the first place. Christians, in general, have a hard time remembering that as we choose to oppress, due to our sincerely held religious beliefs, yet cry “discrimination” when we feel a push back. This is especially true when those people are queer. Within the Christian community, there...

What Kind of Love is That?

What Kind of Love is That?

Apr 3, 2014

We need more. The Christian world (in America, at least) has gone through some painful experiences the past week or so. And honestly, I’m grateful to World Vision for opening up this can of worms.  More evangelicals have posted and written and blogged apologies for their hostile brethren, they’ve searched their hearts and seen how they’ve been guilty of...

And Still, Still We Stand

And Still, Still We Stand

Apr 1, 2014

The stones come. Year after year.   Decade after decade. And I, like a fool never fell.   I cannot, could not, fall.   But they hit.  Still they hit. Still they sting. Even now. Especially now. I filled many glasses to numb it all. Merlot. Coque du vin. And said to myself “feel nothing.” And asked. Demanded. What of it all? I...

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it!

Mar 10, 2014

When conservative Christians find out I’m gay, they almost all say the same thing: “I know gay people think Christians hate them, but I don’t. I love gay people. I may not agree with them, but I love them.” You’d be surprised how often I hear this. Christians are constantly telling me how much they love me. If they treat me disapprovingly, it’s because they...

Come On, Baby, Light My Fire

Come On, Baby, Light My Fire

Mar 3, 2014

One of the things I love most about the building where I work is the wood-burning fireplace. I love many things about that fireplace … the crackle of the wood when it’s burning, the hearth where people often sit or stand to warm themselves, the conversations that take place in front of the roaring fire … I truly love that fireplace. My...