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Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Do Gay People Have Better Sex Than Straight People?

Jul 24, 2014

  “Sex with you is so good, we should celebrate it by having sex.” Do LGBTQ people have better sex than straight people? Maybe they do. Just maybe they do. 🙂 This is Rob, Susan’s husband, writing today. Great sex has nothing to do with whether or not you are gay or straight, but think about it… I think one of the keys to great, intimate, passionate, wild,...

How Beautiful Are You?

How Beautiful Are You?

Jun 30, 2014

Hannah, my beautiful youngest daughter, once told me she felt much more comfortable with her theater friends than with her Christian friends. She felt welcomed, included, and free – but not in her Christian group. Why? Because she could be who she is. She was safe to be Hannah without people watching for some kind of wrong action or wrong attitude. She...

Authenticity & Determination are the Keys to a Powerful Love

Authenticity & Determination are the Keys to a Powerful Love

May 14, 2014

“Be self propelled, believing, daring and un-afraid on your journey. In and under all circumstances be authentically you!” How can you be, or live a life of authenticity when many in society demand conformity? How can you live your truth, love, and best life as a lesbian, when many would prefer you lie, hide, or even change your image, to meet their...

Coming Out: Not One More Mile!

Coming Out: Not One More Mile!

Mar 21, 2014

It’s surprising to me how many questions I continue to receive asking what actually happened on the day I came out … what made me completely break down at my office that day, why I didn’t just gather my things and leave when I got upset, whether I have any regrets about the emotion and the words that poured out of me. It was a day that began as any other day …...

Maybe it’s Francis, Maybe it’s Jesus

Maybe it’s Francis, Maybe it’s Jesus

Nov 26, 2013

“I really like Pope Francis.” That’s what a Mormon friend of mine posted on his Facebook wall. It was a simple statement, after all who doesn’t like Pope Francis? Nevertheless it got me thinking. What is it about him, what is that je ne sais quoi which makes him loved even by non-Catholics? I was born into a Catholic family, though in my teens we...

Walking the Gay and Narrow

Walking the Gay and Narrow

Aug 30, 2013

Almost four years ago at the ripe old age of 49, I became a daily walker. Lest you think otherwise, I can assure you that I learned how to walk when I was less than a year old, and I’ve been walking along through life ever since. I’m not talking about that type of walking, the type we all participate in as we go through our days … walking from our bedrooms to...

Know and Be Known

Know and Be Known

Aug 16, 2013

“It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely – Albert Einstein It’s official. I’m finished with my first unit of CPE (clinical pastoral education… basically, chaplaincy). I spent 11 weeks at Rush University Medical Center on the near west side of Chicago working on the neuroscience floor in the hospitals newest building, the Tower. 40 hours...

You ARE home. Get Used to It

You ARE home. Get Used to It

May 22, 2013

Songs are important. The words we sing, the words we listen to, sink in and take hold of us. That’s why I get so annoyed when I hear Christian songs on the radio or choruses and hymns sung in church that relay bad theology.  I’m not just talking about esoteric theology, like debates about Trinity or what happens at the end of time. But when we’re talking about...

Depression … and Life

Depression … and Life

Mar 25, 2013

Sometimes it just gets the better of you. Sometimes it’s debilitating, crippling. Other days it’s bearable, doable. Some days you’re able to go through your normal routine. Other times you have to drop what you’re doing, run to the nearest bathroom, closet, or dark corner, crouch down, breathe, and cry. Sometimes you clench your fists and grit your teeth....

Living Your Authentic Truth

Living Your Authentic Truth

Dec 31, 2012

Ispeak from direct experience as a, once, straight woman who for the past forty years has lived a lesbian lifestyle. Who I’d been as a person was immediately erased on the day I stepped out of the darkness to declare my awakening to the lesbian who had for all my thirty-four years been sleeping within, all the while undergoing a silent metamorphosis that...