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Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Oct 31, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, I’ve dated girls all of my adult life, with one experience in high school which has left me with the lasting impression that guys are really for me. I’ve been single for two years after the breakdown and resulting divorce from my ex wife.  For the last couple of months I’ve been chatting with guys in gay chat...

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Waiting on God for “The One”? Not so Much.

Aug 24, 2013

  Sigh.  Another coffee-date finished. Nice enough guy, good conversation, but no sparks. Not gonna happen. Cross that one off the prospective husband list. Next! Sometimes this whole dating thing is exhausting. It’s draining, breaking the ice initially, generating  conversation, then the meet-up. Emotions jump into play at some point along the way. Excitement...

Be the Ball

Be the Ball

Aug 21, 2013

Back in the day, way back in the day, when I was in high school and college, I was a really good tennis player. I should have been, after all the hours and hours and hours I spent practicing. There was a tall white stucco wall at the end of the driveway that sat beside the house where I grew up in Tennessee. Though my dad wasn’t happy with me when I took a...

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Apr 25, 2013

In my role as a Dating and Relationship Coach I see a number of different clients come through my doors.   Age-disparity relationships are becoming more and more frequent and commonplace now-a-days. In the straight world it has been commonplace for women to be attracted to older men, and many settle down with the best hunter-gatherer she can find. This gives...

The Fantasy of Dating an Older Man

The Fantasy of Dating an Older Man

Apr 17, 2013

It is commonplace in today’s society to have age-disparity relationships.  In the straight world many men like to have an attractive younger lady on their arm, and many younger women have walked the well-trodden path of having an older man as a husband as the benefits are obvious: established career, home, money and status. In the gay world those attractions...

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Love & Sex Q&A: Recently Out at 45

Mar 22, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, Greetings! My name is Gregory. Recently I came out of the closet. I am 45 years old and feel that I did so rather late in life. Anyway, I just do not want a “hook-up” anymore, but I want to settle down with a significant other. I want to rush things and begin looking, but a friend says, No. He says that I need to let that special...

Dating Life in Your 40s

Dating Life in Your 40s

Feb 26, 2013

Next month I hit the big four zero. Yep, I’ll be 40 years old. I’ve actually been around that long!  I am joining the ranks of the middle-aged gay community.   I am living an openly gay life, and I’m part of the new generation that is evolving in the gay community — the first openly gay generations were pretty much wiped out during the AIDS epidemic in...

BYOB – Gay and Single (Again) After 40

BYOB – Gay and Single (Again) After 40

Jan 19, 2013

I’ll just call him X.  Since he is no longer part of my daily life, and this really isn’t about him anyway,  there’s no need to drag his name into this. We split last year. Now I’m a gay man, well-past the 40-year mark, adjusting to living alone, taking care of myself, and being a single-dad to two wonderful dogs. I’ve still got the house — and I guess...