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Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Posted by on Jun 6, 2016 in Get Real | 3 comments

Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Trey Pearson’s recent coming out was a living example of bravery and the importance of taking a chance. Reggie Sylvan looks at how LGBTQ Christian men should be brave, and uses a couple of Biblical passages to talk about how God calls us to have confidence and take a chance. Over the last couple of days, I’ve been greatly inspired by Trey Pearson’s story. If I’m honest, I’d never heard of his band, Everyday Sunday, before. Christian rock isn’t really my genre. But I’m struck by how brave he has been. He is a prominent member of a...

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Being a 15-year-old. Again. A little empathy for those coming out later in life….

Posted by on May 12, 2016 in Get Real | 0 comments

Being a 15-year-old. Again.  A little empathy for those coming out later in life….

Sexual exploration later in life for LGBT people can be a tricky thing to navigate, and most aren’t afforded the same time to explore, be guided, and grow like heterosexual people are during their teenage years. One of my good friends who is also LGBT, Christian, and affirming (believes that God blesses same-gender marriage) gave me the perfect analogy regarding Second Adolescence — you know, that stage people seem to go through when they come out later in life and haven’t had enough time to adjust yet, things done by hetero...

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Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

Posted by on May 9, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 1 comment

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

Run of the mill coming out narratives usually consist of an adolescent realizing at some point that he is “not like the other boys.” And after bouts with crushes on friends, adventures in the world of pornography, a “bisexual phase,” and perhaps a period of deep depression or anxiety, he will eventually “come out of the closet” and reveal his “true identity” to those whom he deems worthy of knowing the “real me.” But run of the mill narratives are boring and reductive. What is my “true identity”? Who is the “real me,” the “queer me”? Those...

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8 Steps to Being Queer in a Non-Affirming Church

Posted by on May 4, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 9 comments

8 Steps to Being Queer in a Non-Affirming Church

Hey there! Yeah you, the queer in the prayer closet. Having trouble in church? Struggling with looking your pastor in the eye? Dining and dashing in your place of worship? I might be able to help with that. The relationship between queers and the church is in flux right now — some churches are openly affirming, while others hide behind made-up tradition as their means of justified discrimination. I happen to be a faithful member of a church from the latter end of the spectrum. I assume, since you’re reading this article, the same goes...

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Everything that is Wonderful and Terrible About Life After College

Posted by on Apr 5, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Everything that is Wonderful and Terrible About Life After College

Life after college is weird. It’s been exactly 9 months, 21 days, 11 hours, 11 minutes and 57 seconds since I’ve graduated college, according to a website I’m convinced was created by a 4thgrader. In that time, I’ve had an unpaid internship, worked a part-time job that paid me to say hello, gained 10 pounds, lost 2 pounds, applied to 937 jobs, taken Cialis (just to say I’ve tried it), asked my mom for money approximately 37 times, found myself a sexy, bearded precious pearl honey suckle pumpkin seed (aka boyfriend), and landed myself a job...

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Not Being Terrified of Your Birthday

Posted by on Mar 24, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Not Being Terrified of Your Birthday

New York City is a mess when it rains. The stairs leading down into the subway become slippery hazards, taxi cabs splash pedestrians as they zoom through puddles, and the city seems to be in an even crankier mood than usual. I imagine rainy days in places like Portland and Seattle to be a mix of dreamy romance and creative nuance. Here they are a train wreck of traffic jams and getting jabbed in the back of your head by umbrellas as you wait for the bus. Perhaps the only good thing about the rain is that, in good mid-Atlantic fashion, it...

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Staying Airborne

Posted by on Feb 29, 2016 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Staying Airborne

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her ― Lao Tzu The last few nights, after getting over a pretty severe head cold, I found myself sleeping more deeply than before. I’ve been paying better attention to the heaviness in my eyelids, the slowing of my breath, the relaxing of my pulse. Rather than staying awake longer, I’ve been diligent to sit my book down, turn the lamp off, and go...

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Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Posted by on Feb 4, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Kristin and I sat in our usual booth stirring swirls of cream into our coffee cups. The background noise of the diner receded to a low murmur and I made my move. “Kristin, I’ve accepted the job at Riverside and I’m moving to New York City.” My eyes grew hot with tears as I futilely tried to lock my trembling lips in place to give off the appearance of courage and resolve. Kristin’s eyes began to water with kindness as they held me gently in a consolatory gaze. “Don’t cry,” she said, “It’ll be okay. It’ll be fine.” And that’s how I...

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Inwards and Outwards

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Inwards and Outwards

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart… live in the question ― Rainer Maria Rilke Nearly two months have passed since the last time I felt compelled to write publicly, and while I’ve written much in that time, most of it has been for me. Settling into a new place, a new life, a new way of being — it takes energy and focus. Acclimating to a new job (and a new setting) was a rocky experience, and I realized that I couldn’t sustain the energy I was putting into making my life and journey a public one. I’ve learned from...

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Aging as LGBT: A few health issues you should keep an eye on

Posted by on Dec 7, 2015 in Health & Fitness | 0 comments

Aging as LGBT: A few health issues you should keep an eye on

Later adulthood can be a period of many changes, especially in the area of our health. The experiences of aging LGBT persons may be categorized as regular experiences that accompany old age, with the addition of the lingering effects of discrimination and stigma. A unique set of challenges that includes not only the common aging difficulties, but the uncertainty when it comes to elderly care poses a lot of important questions even today. The recent emerging of LGBT retirement homes and centers in major cities is a positive indicator that...

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