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Grieving Straightness

Posted by on Sep 23, 2013 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Grieving Straightness

For many, coming out is liberating… But it’s not always this way. Some people are outed. Some are found out. Some are forced to come out ahead of schedule. Some never come out at all, spending their lives living out the fantasy of what it would mean to be someone else, something else. When people ask me about my coming out story, I very often start with a little laugh, followed by “It’s complicated.” And that’s because it is. Far more complicated than I would have ever imagined or wished for myself. I wish I could have simply said, “Mom. Dad....

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Living Your Authentic Truth

Posted by on Dec 31, 2012 in Get Real | 0 comments

Living Your Authentic Truth

Ispeak from direct experience as a, once, straight woman who for the past forty years has lived a lesbian lifestyle. Who I’d been as a person was immediately erased on the day I stepped out of the darkness to declare my awakening to the lesbian who had for all my thirty-four years been sleeping within, all the while undergoing a silent metamorphosis that eventually freed my authentic self, much like the butterfly that emerges from the cocoon. Once the truth was revealed, unlike the butterfly, the beauty of me as a person held no significance....

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Birthgay Decisions

Posted by on Nov 8, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE, Testify! | 2 comments

Birthgay Decisions

30years. The big Three-Zero.  One score and ten.  Some of you may be some distance from reaching this milestone. Some of you may be higher up on that proverbial hill. Or over it. Heh heh. What do you think your life would be like when you reach 30? Or did you have life figured out when you were 30? I see my friends getting married, having their first kids, even their second ones. They are buying houses, moving on up in life and living the Malaysian dream, which really isn’t too different from the American dream, I guess. But ours usually...

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Opening My Mind, Opening My Heart

Posted by on Nov 5, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE, Testify! | 3 comments

My Christian friend posted a note on her Facebook page about homosexuality, challenging the assumption that homosexuality is a sin and is condemned in the Bible. I was livid. How dare she support something so wrong—something the Bible clearly does condemn as a sin? Loving the LGBT community was one thing, but outrightly supporting their actions was unacceptable. Love the sinner, hate the sin. Isn’t that what Jesus taught? I typed an angry response into the comment box where I argued, as calmly and carefully as I could, that being gay was a...

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Mere Tolerance

Posted by on Oct 29, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE | 2 comments

Mere Tolerance

Please do not be put off by the title. I am inspired by C.S. Lewis. A great man, a great author, and an even greater thinker. One of his best known works is also the inspiration for my thoughts on relationships where we are merely tolerated. When Westboro Baptist trots out their family and pickets a dead soldier’s grave with their hate filled signs it reopens the fresh wound of losing a loved one. You cannot reconcile a senseless death with vulgar displays of hatred. For many gay people, their demands for a “holy” lifestyle feels like a...

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You Gotta Follow Your Heart

Posted by on Oct 15, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE | 2 comments

You Gotta Follow Your Heart

Ilearned early in my life that following my heart was the best way to go. My dad was really into guns, and as a child down deep inside I hated guns, but for a period of time I tried to act like I was interested in them in order to please him.  Finally one day I said to myself, “I don’t like guns at all and I’m not going to pretend anymore that I do just to please my dad.” I didn’t make an issue of it, but just quietly stopped trying to act like I was interested in them. Did my dad stop loving me? Was he offended? No, not at all....

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Being “Ugly Ducklings” is a Wonderful Thing

Posted by on Oct 3, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE | 0 comments

Being “Ugly Ducklings” is a Wonderful Thing

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend about the experience of growing up gay in a straight world. “It’s like the story of the Ugly Duckling,” I said, the analogy suddenly springing to mind. “You know you’re different, but you don’t know why, and you feel like a failure because you can’t seem to measure up to all the ducks around you; the things that come easily to them just don’t come easily to you at all. And then one day you discover that you’re not a duck, and everything makes sense for the first time.” Two things happened when I said this....

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Cut the Crap: Define Who You Are

Posted by on Oct 1, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE | 1 comment

Cut the Crap: Define Who You Are

One of the great things about being human is that we get to choose the nature and quality of our lives – at least insofar as we get to choose the principles, values, goals, desires, etc. that shape us during our time on this planet. Animals and plants don’t have this gift and responsibility, at least as far as we can tell.  Only we humans have this capacity.  So, taking charge of the areas that we have some control over in order to build more happy and successful lives is at the heart of what it means to be a thriving human being. And...

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Tapes of My Life

Posted by on Sep 24, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE, Testify! | 2 comments

Tapes of My Life

This is the first of a series of live blog-posts by a young, lay church leader, coming to terms with what it means to be not only gay and Christian, but to serve God’s people in a Pentecostal/Charismatic setting in Asia.  Hi there.  I’m a 29 year old Christian guy from the Far East who also happens to be gay. I decided to start writing after being inspired by another gay Christian guy’s blog. Kudos to him! This originally started as an anonymous blog post but has somehow made its way here to IMPACTmagazine. I hope to let other gay Christians...

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Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

Posted by on Sep 16, 2012 in Get Real, REAL LIFE | 2 comments

Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

I read these three words on a Christian friend’s Facebook page: You Are Worthy.  This ended up in a long debate on his FB post. Poor guy. If speaking those words feels like blasphemy, you’re in good company. For many of us raised in stricter faith traditions, our first gut reaction is more like, “Huh? I am not worthy. Only God is worthy!”  Even people who do not hold such an austere perspective can find those 3 words a challenge. I can only speak from a Christian perspective because that is all I have ever known, but self-esteem was never...

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