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Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Posted by on Nov 21, 2017 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Friends, there’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you all. It’s been a long time coming, and although my family, friends and classmates know, a lot of people still don’t. So I’m going to get straight to the point: I’m gay. A lot of you might be thinking, “What’s the big deal?,” but it took me 22 years to quit running from this truth about who I am. I first began to question my sexuality in high school, but was so scared of who I was that I blocked it from my mind for another 4 years until I was a sophomore in college. I was working as...

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Nashville

Posted by on Sep 9, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Nashville

  “THE STORY GOES THAT A PUBLIC SINNER WAS EXCOMMUNICATED AND FORBIDDEN ENTRY TO THE CHURCH. HE TOOK HIS WOES TO GOD. ‘THEY WON’T LET ME IN, LORD, BECAUSE I AM A SINNER.’ ‘WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT?’ SAID GOD. ‘THEY WON’T LET ME IN EITHER.” ― BRENNAN MANNING, THE RAGAMUFFIN GOSPEL As far back as I can remember, I’ve had a vivid imagination. Growing up, I remember making these drawings of motor homes that were “bigger on the inside”, creating floor plans of my own version of...

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15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

Posted by on Aug 22, 2017 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

For many years, I had a nice, peaceful, routine life with a good job and a great employer. But one day in late May, I found out I was going to be laid off in the near future. Though my employer and I parted on excellent terms, reality still applied to me. Losing your job is a major life change, and it isn’t one of the most pleasant things for someone to experience. I’ve had my emotional ups and downs, wondering how I would pay bills, debating whether I could afford to take a trip, a short vacation, I’d been planning for a...

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Choosing Intentional Rest

Posted by on Mar 13, 2017 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Choosing Intentional Rest

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the “resting” has taken on a new meaning for me. In the past, rest was wasting time in front of the TV or browsing the Internet or even taking a nap. This spring break, my plan is to be more intentional with resting. I know that sounds like an oxymoron, but hear me out! Some of the things that are most valuable to me are the times that I spent singing as a child and at times...

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Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Posted by on Feb 13, 2017 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai Chi. As far as my relationship goes, I rushed into something with someone I didn’t know. At the time I (and I believe he as well) was caught up in our eagerness and reciprocity of...

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Sexy

Posted by on Jan 16, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real, Health & Fitness | 0 comments

Sexy

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just rolling out of bed in the morning — Vironika Tugaleva A few months ago, on a Monday, my friend Alex came over and started a journey with me. After a long enough time of wavering back and...

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Words

Posted by on Jan 9, 2017 in Featured, Finding the Balance, Get Real | 0 comments

Words

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability, culture, family structure, race, creed, gender or sexuality, we all learn — many things in many ways. In particular, we learn words. Before I started my journey into CPE, or even into...

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Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

  File this one under “humor, mild” and “realness” and “masculinity” and “being.” I am thankful for skinny pants. I like the way they feel and look and am thankful they exist and that I’m wearing them right now. “Oh, Stan… stop being silly. How random!” Not completely. A couple of years ago… hell, maybe even a year ago… I wouldn’t have worn skinny pants. Or skinny jeans. I remember when some friends or colleagues would say to me sometimes, “Are you wearing skinny jeans?!” and I would reply, appalled, “No, of course not—they’re just slim...

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When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

Posted by on Nov 3, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 4 comments

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we were: deeply in love, and now deeply heartbroken. We had lived in a horrible in-between place, unable to change our beliefs and unable to stop loving each other. The dissonance drove us mad, and it ended in him breaking up with me. I’d never known such rending...

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Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

Posted by on Sep 8, 2016 in Featured, Get Real | 0 comments

Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

“Wow” said the man, “you are still working at this store. I’m impressed. Most people with higher IQ’s don’t stay here very long.” “Thanks?” I said, ringing him up. “So what are you really doing with your life,” said another older gentleman as I bagged his groceries, “because clearly you’re just playing here.” I stared at him, irate. On my second day on the job, 2 years ago, a woman asked me, “so what do you do?” (A note: I’m in the South. Complete...

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