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The Ten Best Gay Dad-Friendly Movies for Kids

Posted by on Mar 16, 2013 in Family Life, Featured, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 1 comment

The Ten Best Gay Dad-Friendly Movies for Kids

One of a child’s first challenges is to understand his or her own world.  For gay dads, this presents its own set of issues since much of the material we use with our kids basically ignores our very existence.  Kids’ programming, books and toy sets all reflect the Mommy/Daddy paradigm.  That is not likely to change,  that standard representing the majority, and LGBT families must find ways to cope. I was constantly editing as I read my boys “good night” stories, changing the word “Mommy” to “Papa” so they heard a story about a world they...

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In Our Gay Family, Two Little Best Friends Became Brothers

Posted by on Feb 14, 2013 in Family Life, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 1 comment

In Our Gay Family, Two Little Best Friends Became Brothers

Some of those fighting marriage equality these days, want you to believe that there is only a single possible right way to create a “real” family.  The  way they suggest is by means of unprotected, unplanned, procreative sex.  Or, as Nan Hunter observes,  “accidental procreation” which then warrants 1500 protections and benefits by means of a “bribe (for) heterosexuals “ to get married.  Only the biologically created family deserves marriage, they argue, and all the rewards to stay together. The notion is insulting and absurd, not only for...

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A Son Tells His Gay Dad, “You Are Not My Mom”

Posted by on Jan 22, 2013 in Family Life, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 0 comments

A Son Tells His Gay Dad, “You Are Not My Mom”

Ialways figured there were certain hateful statements my sons would make, especially ones that say I am inadequate. Such statements would come out in the future during some teen age angst scrapple where I was laying down the law and they were going for my vulnerable jugular. My sister told me once, “If your kids don’t shout out that they hate you at least a few times, then you aren’t doing it right.” Up until now, no such shout out has occurred. One of the statements I feared was finally delivered, but it did not come as part of a calculated...

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In LGBTQ vs Straight Parenting, Gay Families Win

Posted by on Jan 16, 2013 in Family Life, Featured, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 5 comments

In LGBTQ vs Straight Parenting, Gay Families Win

George Bernard Shaw once described straight parenting as having “no test of fitness.”  LGBTQ parents are beyond  the “test.”  In recent scrutiny by representatives of the Catholic Church and a group of authors speaking at the Heritage Foundation, LGBTQ parents received a raking which was entirely unfounded, ridiculous, untrue and frankly, bizarre.  At best, it is bitterly unfair.  At the Heritage Foundation, authors Sherif Girgis, Ryan T. Anderson and Dr. Robert  P. George compared LGBTQ parenting to straight parenting and declared,  “We...

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Bringing Up Bubber: “Have You Thought About This?”

Posted by on Nov 2, 2012 in Family Life, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 0 comments

Bringing Up Bubber: “Have You Thought About This?”

Bringing Up Bubber is a series of articles written by Jill Carroll and Nishta Mehra about their journey in becoming parents. She Said – Nishta Let’s face it—gay people don’t become parents by accident.  We have to employ outside parties like sperm and egg donors, surrogates, and adoption agencies in order to get home with a baby, which means lots of planning ahead of time and, often, lots of waiting. This simple biological reality can be incredibly frustrating when all you want is to love and parent a child of your own; it can also be...

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Bringing Up Bubber: First There Was Us

Posted by on Sep 16, 2012 in Family Life, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 5 comments

Bringing Up Bubber: First There Was Us

Bringing Up Bubber is a series of articles written by Jill Carroll and Nishta Mehra about their journey in becoming parents. She Said — Jill Inever really wanted to be a mom.  Unlike many other women, I’ve never felt like something was missing in my life—as a person or as a woman—from having no children.  I’ve never experienced anything resembling a biological clock.  I’ve never been enamored with children.  In fact, more often than not, children bother me (mainly because their parents haven’t managed to civilize them to behave...

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