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First-Ever LGBTQ Religious Children’s Books Now Available!

Posted by on May 16, 2016 in Church Chat, Family Life, Featured | 0 comments

First-Ever LGBTQ Religious Children’s Books Now Available!

LGBTQ-affirming religious books for kids are available for the first time ever with the launch of the Good News Children’s Book Series this spring. Books such as “Faithful Families” remind children that God loves them, no matter what their family looks like — even if they have two mommies or two daddies. “Mr. Grumpy Christian” is for LGBTQ families to read if they hear Christians telling them that God cannot love them. “Transgender Children of God” affirms transgender parents and children by declaring that God will love us no matter...

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Who’s the Wife?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2016 in Family Life, Featured, Love & Sex | 1 comment

Who’s the Wife?

When you’re a gay couple about to get married, you inevitably encounter a few seemingly innocuous questions from straight people: Which one of you is going to walk down the aisle at your wedding? Who’s going to take the other’s last name? Have you decided who will stay home if you ever have kids? What about laundry and cooking? They are, in essence, all variations of the same question: Who’s the wife? Tino and I haven’t had the fortune of being asked that actual question, but we do have friends who have. The question is impossible to answer...

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Is Divorce Really Wrong?

Posted by on Aug 7, 2014 in Family Life, Featured, Love & Sex | 2 comments

Is Divorce Really Wrong?

In the past, my beliefs about divorce were as black and white as the text on the pages of the Bible. From this legalistic perspective, there were really only two conditions within which divorce would be acceptable — Jesus’ teaching about adultery in Matt. 19:9, and Paul’s teaching about an unbelieving spouse departing in 1Co. 7:15. I believed that divorce for any other reason wouldn’t be valid in God’s eyes, which would make any prospect of remarriage spiritually impossible. It’s so hard being legalistic! Whenever my grandmother and I...

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How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

Posted by on Jun 24, 2014 in Family Life, Featured, Love & Sex | 1 comment

How do Same-Sex Couples Interpret Eph. 5:21-33?

This morning, Dolce and I received a lovely text from a young priest at the church we attended for some years before moving to Massachusetts. It’s part of a socially conservative new denomination which strives to reunite the liturgical, evangelical, and charismatic Christan streams. Dolce and I were active in leadership and in the life of the church when our marriages went through the final death throes of their long-drawn out demise. As God knit the two of us closer and closer together, the church didn’t know how to handle us....

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3 Boundaries You Must Create When Coming Out

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Family Life | 1 comment

3 Boundaries You Must Create When Coming Out

Do your parents believe God can still “change” you? Have many of your conversations with your parents ended the same as mine, “We’re praying for you. God’s doing a work in you. He’s not finished with you yet. I believe God’s going to change you.” Although hearing this causes pain and feels like rejection, it’s important we understand it comes from a place of wanting what is best for us as their children. My response was often argumentative and the conversation was ultimately unproductive. It wasn’t until I set three boundaries that my...

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Moms & Dads… What the Heck are We Doing?!?

Posted by on May 23, 2014 in ENGAGE, Family Life, FreedHearts | 0 comments

Moms & Dads…  What the Heck are We Doing?!?

  Well, my heart is broken. Yet another mom has emailed me that their daughter came out to them as gay, and her husband, the girl’s father, kicked her out. Dad said, “I don’t agree with her lifestyle; she will have to leave.” (Bear in mind there was no “acting on this” yet, no “lifestyle” – it was simply the daughter revealing her heart.) Mom disagrees with Dad – she is wondering how she can continue to live with a husband who would do that to his own daughter. Unfortunately, this is way too common. With high drugs use and...

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Hope for a Dysfunctional Christmas Homecoming

Posted by on Dec 21, 2013 in Family Life, Featured, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 1 comment

Hope for a Dysfunctional Christmas Homecoming

Have you ever considered the irony in the Christmas story with respect to family? Luke tells us “a decree went out from Emperor Augustus that all the world should be registered. All went to their own towns to be registered. Joseph went from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to the city of David, called Bethlehem, because he was descended from the house and family of David. He went to be registered with Mary, to whom he was engaged and who was expecting a child.” That was the original Christmas homecoming. Whether this...

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A Gay Dad Sounds Off About Fundamentalists Who Target Kids

Posted by on May 28, 2013 in CULTURE SAVVY, Family Life, Hot Topics | 2 comments

A Gay Dad Sounds Off About Fundamentalists Who Target Kids

As a parent, my Job #1 is the protection and care of my children. It is my job to be vigilant over their self-worth, to keep them physically safe, to show them how to be moral and productive citizens, and to empower their spiritual growth. It is a duty that I take very seriously. It is distressing when total strangers launch an attack against all those things specifically targeting my kids. That is exactly what author Amber Lee Parker and illustrator Hannah Segura have done with the release of their children’s book “God Made Dad & Mom.”...

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Bringing Up Bubber: My Son Wears Girl Clothes

Posted by on Apr 15, 2013 in Family Life, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 0 comments

Bringing Up Bubber: My Son Wears Girl Clothes

My son wears girl clothes. He doesn’t dress himself yet, mind you. He’s only 9 months old, so we still do that for him. But, he wears a few outfits that are clearly made for girls. And he looks good in them. Before becoming a parent, I thought that the days of rigid gender definitions for clothes, toys and basically anything a baby needs or would want were mostly behind us. I wasn’t around kids much and didn’t shop for them, so I didn’t actually know for sure; but I figured that the turn of the millennium, the last several decades of women’s...

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Love & Sex Q&A: My In-Law’s Uncontrollable Children

Posted by on Mar 29, 2013 in Family Life, Featured, Love & Sex, LOVE, SEX, FAMILY | 0 comments

Love & Sex Q&A: My In-Law’s Uncontrollable Children

QDear L&S Q&A, Five years ago my husband and I adopted our son, he is the light of our lives, he’s an amazingly gifted boy.  Very creative, and academically advanced. But hey, what parent wouldn’t say that?  He has also been bought up with manners and to be polite around adults.  We can take him out to restaurants and in public, and he is always well behaved. Last weekend we met up with my sister-in-law for a family meal, and due to her complete inability to control or teach her children discipline we were all asked to leave a...

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