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LOVE, SEX & FAMILY: This is not your father’s Christian magazine!  Let’s talk about love,  sex, dating, and what makes a family — all from the perspective of being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender and living a life of faith

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Posted by on Oct 26, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Love & Sex | 15 comments

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got me to write this. He added, “for those seriously interested only.” And there it is. I see it a lot in my Christian guy friends. The desire to skip right over the dating...

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Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Posted by on Oct 10, 2016 in Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Several years ago, as I was journeying out of the traditional theological view of gay marriage, I read an extraordinary book by Dr. James Brownson titled Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing The Church’s Debate on Same-Sex Relationships. Bible, Gender, Sexuality is a thing of theological beauty: elegant, persuasive, and deeply compassionate. It was the book that allowed me to finally pack my bags and walk with confidence into affirming gay marriage and my own gay orientation. I first read Brownson in 2013, but one passage in particular has...

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Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Posted by on Jul 4, 2016 in Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

I have heard it said so many times before.  “As soon as I get married, I know all these things will change.” I’d like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have not been married before, to consider the following truths I believe will cause every present and future marriage to be the healthy and wonderful experience God had in mind when he designed it. 1. If you are feeling lonely, marriage won’t change that, as loneliness is not cured suddenly when you have someone next to you. 2. If you are feeling incomplete, marriage...

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Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

Posted by on May 30, 2016 in Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Waited Until Marriage. Now What?

For many Christians, the belief in “waiting until marriage” for sexual activity is often deeply motivated by their faith. But sometimes hiding underneath those convictions can be other unhealthy issues that may actually impede a happy sex life once they are married. We live in a culture that is sex obsessed. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to beer to deodorant. It is a major theme in many movies and TV shows. It is talked about in the locker room, over coffee, in magazines in the check-out aisle and everywhere on the Internet....

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First-Ever LGBTQ Religious Children’s Books Now Available!

Posted by on May 16, 2016 in Church Chat, Family Life, Featured | 0 comments

First-Ever LGBTQ Religious Children’s Books Now Available!

LGBTQ-affirming religious books for kids are available for the first time ever with the launch of the Good News Children’s Book Series this spring. Books such as “Faithful Families” remind children that God loves them, no matter what their family looks like — even if they have two mommies or two daddies. “Mr. Grumpy Christian” is for LGBTQ families to read if they hear Christians telling them that God cannot love them. “Transgender Children of God” affirms transgender parents and children by declaring that God will love us no matter...

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Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

Posted by on May 13, 2016 in Cafe Inspirado, Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

A couple of friends on social media have posted recently about the difficulties they’re having after breaking up with their boyfriends. I can empathize. That emotional vortex can tear you apart for a few weeks and make you feel like your whole life is destroyed. But, for me, it turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. Relationships are wonderful things. We humans seem to crave them. We can feel isolated, lonely, and incomplete without them, as if our lives have little or no meaning unless someone else is there sharing it...

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Making Long Distance Relationships Work…

Posted by on May 10, 2016 in Love & Sex | 0 comments

Making Long Distance Relationships Work…

This infographic was created by Shawn Evans, Co-Owner at Can’t We Just Get Along Counselling. Take a look at his website for more info...

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Who’s the Wife?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2016 in Family Life, Featured, Love & Sex | 1 comment

Who’s the Wife?

When you’re a gay couple about to get married, you inevitably encounter a few seemingly innocuous questions from straight people: Which one of you is going to walk down the aisle at your wedding? Who’s going to take the other’s last name? Have you decided who will stay home if you ever have kids? What about laundry and cooking? They are, in essence, all variations of the same question: Who’s the wife? Tino and I haven’t had the fortune of being asked that actual question, but we do have friends who have. The question is impossible to answer...

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7 Online Dating Tips (from a guy who’s never had a boyfriend)

Posted by on Mar 30, 2016 in Love & Sex | 0 comments

7 Online Dating Tips (from a guy who’s never had a boyfriend)

The online dating world is rough. Dating in general is rough. You have a lot to compete with and who knows what the other person’s intentions are. I’ve never had a boyfriend (full disclosure, and all that), and it isn’t for the lack of trying. I do live on dating apps however, and go on quite a few dates. Here are the tips I have learned that work to at least get you the first meet. 1. Have a Face Pic or Provide it Without Being Asked If I were to meet you in person I would see your face. And I like to see people’s faces so I know what...

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Is It In His Eyes?

Posted by on Mar 22, 2016 in Featured, Love & Sex | 0 comments

Is It In His Eyes?

Attraction is tricky. You see a guy and you say to your friend, “He’s so fine;” a girl walks by and you think, “Wish she were mine.” You like that she’s shy, or that he’s a soft-spoken guy. Do-lang, do-lang, you fall. He’s the one you dream of. She looks into your eyes and takes you to the clouds above. You fall in love whenever you meet, and say a prayer with every heartbeat. But how can you tell if it’s real? Is it in his eyes? In her face? His warm embrace? How ‘bout the way she acts? No, no. You’ll be deceived. If you wanna know if...

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