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Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Bravery and Confidence‏. Sometimes you just gotta step out and take a chance

Jun 6, 2016

Trey Pearson’s recent coming out was a living example of bravery and the importance of taking a chance. Reggie Sylvan looks at how LGBTQ Christian men should be brave, and uses a couple of Biblical passages to talk about how God calls us to have confidence and take a chance. Over the last couple of days, I’ve been greatly inspired by Trey Pearson’s...

Being a 15-year-old. Again. A little empathy for those coming out later in life….

Being a 15-year-old. Again.  A little empathy for those coming out later in life….

May 12, 2016

Sexual exploration later in life for LGBT people can be a tricky thing to navigate, and most aren’t afforded the same time to explore, be guided, and grow like heterosexual people are during their teenage years. One of my good friends who is also LGBT, Christian, and affirming (believes that God blesses same-gender marriage) gave me the perfect analogy...

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

Chasing “Exceptional” – My Queer Catholic Drama. When being queer wasn’t queer enough.

May 9, 2016

Run of the mill coming out narratives usually consist of an adolescent realizing at some point that he is “not like the other boys.” And after bouts with crushes on friends, adventures in the world of pornography, a “bisexual phase,” and perhaps a period of deep depression or anxiety, he will eventually “come out of the closet” and reveal his “true identity” to...

8 Steps to Being Queer in a Non-Affirming Church

8 Steps to Being Queer in a Non-Affirming Church

May 4, 2016

Hey there! Yeah you, the queer in the prayer closet. Having trouble in church? Struggling with looking your pastor in the eye? Dining and dashing in your place of worship? I might be able to help with that. The relationship between queers and the church is in flux right now — some churches are openly affirming, while others hide behind made-up tradition...

Everything that is Wonderful and Terrible About Life After College

Everything that is Wonderful and Terrible About Life After College

Apr 5, 2016

Life after college is weird. It’s been exactly 9 months, 21 days, 11 hours, 11 minutes and 57 seconds since I’ve graduated college, according to a website I’m convinced was created by a 4thgrader. In that time, I’ve had an unpaid internship, worked a part-time job that paid me to say hello, gained 10 pounds, lost 2 pounds, applied to 937 jobs, taken Cialis...

Not Being Terrified of Your Birthday

Not Being Terrified of Your Birthday

Mar 24, 2016

New York City is a mess when it rains. The stairs leading down into the subway become slippery hazards, taxi cabs splash pedestrians as they zoom through puddles, and the city seems to be in an even crankier mood than usual. I imagine rainy days in places like Portland and Seattle to be a mix of dreamy romance and creative nuance. Here they are a train wreck of...

Staying Airborne

Staying Airborne

Feb 29, 2016

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her ― Lao Tzu The last few nights, after getting over a pretty severe head cold, I found myself sleeping more deeply than before. I’ve been paying better...

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Feb 4, 2016

Kristin and I sat in our usual booth stirring swirls of cream into our coffee cups. The background noise of the diner receded to a low murmur and I made my move. “Kristin, I’ve accepted the job at Riverside and I’m moving to New York City.” My eyes grew hot with tears as I futilely tried to lock my trembling lips in place to give off the appearance of courage...

Inwards and Outwards

Inwards and Outwards

Dec 11, 2015

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart… live in the question ― Rainer Maria Rilke Nearly two months have passed since the last time I felt compelled to write publicly, and while I’ve written much in that time, most of it has been for me. Settling into a new place, a new life, a new way of being — it takes energy and focus. Acclimating...

Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Changing my ways: Coming out as HIV+

Dec 3, 2015

HIV in 2015 in the United States just doesn’t compare to the AIDS crisis of the ‘80s and ‘90s. There have been radical improvements in treatment and life expectancy since then. But while HIV may no longer be a death sentence in the United States, becoming positive in a society that pretends it didn’t commit atrocities against those with the disease during the...