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Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Coming Out in Baptist Seminary

Nov 21, 2017

Friends, there’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you all. It’s been a long time coming, and although my family, friends and classmates know, a lot of people still don’t. So I’m going to get straight to the point: I’m gay. A lot of you might be thinking, “What’s the big deal?,” but it took me 22 years to quit running from this truth about who I am. I first...

Nashville

Nashville

Sep 9, 2017

  “THE STORY GOES THAT A PUBLIC SINNER WAS EXCOMMUNICATED AND FORBIDDEN ENTRY TO THE CHURCH. HE TOOK HIS WOES TO GOD. ‘THEY WON’T LET ME IN, LORD, BECAUSE I AM A SINNER.’ ‘WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT?’ SAID GOD. ‘THEY WON’T LET ME IN EITHER.” ― BRENNAN MANNING, THE RAGAMUFFIN GOSPEL As far back as I can...

15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

Aug 22, 2017

For many years, I had a nice, peaceful, routine life with a good job and a great employer. But one day in late May, I found out I was going to be laid off in the near future. Though my employer and I parted on excellent terms, reality still applied to me. Losing your job is a major life change, and it isn’t one of the most pleasant things for someone to...

Choosing Intentional Rest

Choosing Intentional Rest

Mar 13, 2017

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the “resting” has taken on a new meaning for me. In the past, rest was wasting time in front of the TV or browsing the Internet or even taking a nap. This spring break, my plan is to be more...

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Sexy

Sexy

Jan 16, 2017

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just...

Words

Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Nov 29, 2016

  File this one under “humor, mild” and “realness” and “masculinity” and “being.” I am thankful for skinny pants. I like the way they feel and look and am thankful they exist and that I’m wearing them right now. “Oh, Stan… stop being silly. How random!” Not completely. A couple of years ago… hell, maybe even a year ago… I wouldn’t have worn skinny pants....

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

Nov 3, 2016

In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we were: deeply in love, and now deeply heartbroken. We had lived in a horrible...

Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

Sep 8, 2016

“Wow” said the man, “you are still working at this store. I’m impressed. Most people with higher IQ’s don’t stay here very long.” “Thanks?” I said, ringing him up. “So what are you really doing with your life,” said another older gentleman as I bagged his groceries, “because clearly you’re...