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Grieving Straightness

Grieving Straightness

Sep 23, 2013

For many, coming out is liberating… But it’s not always this way. Some people are outed. Some are found out. Some are forced to come out ahead of schedule. Some never come out at all, spending their lives living out the fantasy of what it would mean to be someone else, something else. When people ask me about my coming out story, I very often start with a...

Living Your Authentic Truth

Living Your Authentic Truth

Dec 31, 2012

Ispeak from direct experience as a, once, straight woman who for the past forty years has lived a lesbian lifestyle. Who I’d been as a person was immediately erased on the day I stepped out of the darkness to declare my awakening to the lesbian who had for all my thirty-four years been sleeping within, all the while undergoing a silent metamorphosis that...

Birthgay Decisions

Birthgay Decisions

Nov 8, 2012

30years. The big Three-Zero.  One score and ten.  Some of you may be some distance from reaching this milestone. Some of you may be higher up on that proverbial hill. Or over it. Heh heh. What do you think your life would be like when you reach 30? Or did you have life figured out when you were 30? I see my friends getting married, having their first kids, even...

Opening My Mind, Opening My Heart

My Christian friend posted a note on her Facebook page about homosexuality, challenging the assumption that homosexuality is a sin and is condemned in the Bible. I was livid. How dare she support something so wrong—something the Bible clearly does condemn as a sin? Loving the LGBT community was one thing, but outrightly supporting their actions was...

Mere Tolerance

Mere Tolerance

Oct 29, 2012

Please do not be put off by the title. I am inspired by C.S. Lewis. A great man, a great author, and an even greater thinker. One of his best known works is also the inspiration for my thoughts on relationships where we are merely tolerated. When Westboro Baptist trots out their family and pickets a dead soldier’s grave with their hate filled signs it reopens...

You Gotta Follow Your Heart

You Gotta Follow Your Heart

Oct 15, 2012

Ilearned early in my life that following my heart was the best way to go. My dad was really into guns, and as a child down deep inside I hated guns, but for a period of time I tried to act like I was interested in them in order to please him.  Finally one day I said to myself, “I don’t like guns at all and I’m not going to pretend anymore that I do just...

Being “Ugly Ducklings” is a Wonderful Thing

Being “Ugly Ducklings” is a Wonderful Thing

Oct 3, 2012

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend about the experience of growing up gay in a straight world. “It’s like the story of the Ugly Duckling,” I said, the analogy suddenly springing to mind. “You know you’re different, but you don’t know why, and you feel like a failure because you can’t seem to measure up to all the ducks around you; the things that come easily...

Cut the Crap: Define Who You Are

Cut the Crap: Define Who You Are

Oct 1, 2012

One of the great things about being human is that we get to choose the nature and quality of our lives – at least insofar as we get to choose the principles, values, goals, desires, etc. that shape us during our time on this planet. Animals and plants don’t have this gift and responsibility, at least as far as we can tell.  Only we humans have this...

Tapes of My Life

Tapes of My Life

Sep 24, 2012

This is the first of a series of live blog-posts by a young, lay church leader, coming to terms with what it means to be not only gay and Christian, but to serve God’s people in a Pentecostal/Charismatic setting in Asia.  Hi there.  I’m a 29 year old Christian guy from the Far East who also happens to be gay. I decided to start writing after being inspired by...

Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

Sep 16, 2012

I read these three words on a Christian friend’s Facebook page: You Are Worthy.  This ended up in a long debate on his FB post. Poor guy. If speaking those words feels like blasphemy, you’re in good company. For many of us raised in stricter faith traditions, our first gut reaction is more like, “Huh? I am not worthy. Only God is worthy!”  Even people who do...