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Is It In His Eyes?

Is It In His Eyes?

Mar 22, 2016

Attraction is tricky. You see a guy and you say to your friend, “He’s so fine;” a girl walks by and you think, “Wish she were mine.” You like that she’s shy, or that he’s a soft-spoken guy. Do-lang, do-lang, you fall. He’s the one you dream of. She looks into your eyes and takes you to the clouds above. You fall in love whenever you meet, and say a prayer...

What Gay Men Need to Know About STDs

What Gay Men Need to Know About STDs

Mar 22, 2016

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Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: 5 Golden Rings … or not

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: 5 Golden Rings … or not

Dec 30, 2015

What do you do when you don’t get the true love, much less the five gold rings? This is, more or less, the question that prompted me to blog this Christmastide on queer perspectives. I keep coming across LGBT folk who are single and miserable about it, to the point of depression and self-destructive thoughts. I suppose I know something of these thoughts,...

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Dear Guys, These Aren’t the Droids You’re Looking For

Oct 6, 2015

“Oh look, the cute guy messaged me first!” I exclaim. “Let me see.” My friends reply. “Never mind, he’s not my type.” “How do you know?” “He’s a ‘no fats, fems, blacks, Asians, Caucasians with brown eyes, guys who don’t like the color pink, guys who onlydrink  whiskey, and guys who breathe’ kind of guy.” Haven’t we all been on the receiving end of this? I know...

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Dear Guys: My Real Online Dating Profile

Sep 25, 2015

Dear Guys, Thanks to social media, we can now condense anything we want to into 140 characters. If you can’t, then you really can’t stay relevant. This idea overflows into the online dating profile. How do we capture someone’s attention in a short span but also try to convey a little bit about what we are? Some of us don’t even try, there is nothing in the...

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Love at First Click. Is Online Dating for You?

Sep 23, 2015

Online dating has become a fixed part of our reality in recent years. People used to laugh at it, but with millions using dating sites every day — and marriages sometimes resulting from them — why limit your options?  Here’s a cool bit of trivia for ya: 80% of gay men now meet their long-term partners online.  Interested now? Here’s a...

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Sep 14, 2015

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that...

Dear Guys, If you want it to work, you gotta stick around

Dear Guys, If you want it to work, you gotta stick around

Sep 11, 2015

D ear Guys, You know who you are: the ones that I see as potential boyfriend material. I will always be guarded around you. Maybe even after we get married. That’s just who I am. I’m mixed up and complicated. Just like you, when you’re on Grindr and you say you want to settle down, but jump into the first guys pants that you can.  Honestly, I don’t...

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Aug 18, 2015

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people...

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

3 Things We Think About that Sabotage Our Gay Relationships

Jul 31, 2015

The most dangerous thing about looking for and falling in love is dwelling in your head for too long. I admit I love being in love. I love thinking about it. I love the Disney movies that celebrate it with those saccharine sweet story lines and the runaway pop hits. (No, I will not Let It Go!) I am a romantic at heart, and I admit to being very adept in using...