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Dear Gay Uncle: He’s become clingy and obsessive

Dear Gay Uncle: He’s become clingy and obsessive

Feb 23, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, I live quite a happy solitary life. My life is compartmentalised between work, friends, and love life/sexual adventures.  I’m totally at ease with this and am approaching 50 with my life in a contented cycle. I met a date on a hook up app.  We had fun, and met up a few more times.  Before I realised it, I found myself in a relationship. It was...

Dear Gay Uncle: My messy friend wants to move in

Dear Gay Uncle: My messy friend wants to move in

Feb 16, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, My friend went through a rough time with a split with his partner. For a few weeks he stayed in my spare room while he was getting himself sorted. He is a messy person and I was relieved when he finally moved out into a new house share. I didn’t comment on his messiness as I knew it was just short term and he was going through a rough time. I...

Dear Gay Uncle: He misunderstood our relationship

Dear Gay Uncle: He misunderstood our relationship

Feb 9, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, I previously used social media a lot. When I was going through a rough time at college and coming to terms with being gay I found it to be a great support. Exchanging messages and talking through my stresses of the time. I’m now an out gay man and working in my perfect career. Life is working out for me. Now that things are going well in my...

Dear Gay Uncle: He cheated on me — 20 years ago

Dear Gay Uncle: He cheated on me — 20 years ago

Feb 2, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, I’ve discovered my partner has had an affair. We’ve been together for nearly twenty years. The affair was in the first year of our relationship. At the funeral of one of our friends, the surviving partner confided in me that his husband and my partner had been together. I worked out the dates and it was in the summer after we started going out...

Dear Gay Uncle: My partner got a promotion to a new city

Dear Gay Uncle: My partner got a promotion to a new city

Jan 26, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, My partner has won a great promotion in another city. We’ve been together nearly ten years, have a great home together, and superb life. This promotion is what he’s been working towards for the last five years. He was hoping to fill the position that was available where we live, but a counterpart in the same role has taken it here leaving the...

Dear Gay Uncle: He’s got a problem child

Dear Gay Uncle: He’s got a problem child

Jan 19, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, I’ve been dating a fantastic guy, he’s middle aged, but fit and trim, loves hiking and very outdoorsy, but is also equally happy in a city cocktail bar. We started hooking up three years ago, he’d been married to a woman and was going through a divorce. We enjoyed spending time together, so the hook ups became going out to drinks, the theatre...

Dear Gay Uncle: Drunk Dialing

Dear Gay Uncle: Drunk Dialing

Jan 15, 2018

Q Dear Gay Uncle, I got married to my partner of 7 years last year and we’re now getting divorced, just after the summer last year he asked to open up the relationship. He claimed he’d not played the field and felt he’d missed out. We’re now both in our forties. Admittedly, he came out in his early thirties. But he hated the bar scene, preferring dinner parties...

One of God’s Poppy Boys: On Being Sweetly Submissive

One of God’s Poppy Boys: On Being Sweetly Submissive

Aug 25, 2017

Several years ago I was walking up a hill with my church pastor when he told me “God knows your type; he’s dealt with many others like you in the past.” He was referring to my tendency for introspection and insecurity, but his point now chimes with another part of me. He reminded me that “type” is not a dirty word in the Christian vocabulary. Everyone is an...

Naked and Unashamed

Naked and Unashamed

May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the line “Sex is evil. Sex is bad. Save it for the one you love.” It’s funny, yet so terribly sad. Add to this situation that I was gay. Growing up gay in the evangelical church added...

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got...