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Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Jun 18, 2015

We are a “Faith” generation. Many of us who surfed the wave of “Word-Faith” teaching that swept explosively through the Church in the 1980s and ’90s have since found our balance point in life. As with any fresh movement of the Spirit, there were excesses, misunderstandings, and actions out of spiritual immaturity unchecked by the...

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

Jun 12, 2015

Living with uncertainty just may be the mark of a genuinely in-touch spiritual life. When your thoughts, your perspective of the God and the universe, go beyond the limits of what you’ve been taught, when you begin to think outside the lines, it can be a very scary thing. But it can also be a sign of profound growth. And you might be in touch with God in...

The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

Apr 1, 2015

Palm Sunday was a few days ago, the first day of the most powerful and important week in the church year. In liturgical traditions, the service opens with joyful singing and the waving of palms, and progresses into a reading of the Passion. The account in Mark’s gospel begins with a woman from Bethany lavishing Jesus with love and costly nard, but then it...

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Mar 23, 2015

At three-and-a-half years old, Maya* is an absolute delight. Wearing polka dot rain boots, she splashes in parking lot puddles, her ringlets bouncing, and a smile of sheer joy spreads across her face. Before the day’s end I am in awe of her thoughtfulness, creativity, logic, and imagination. “Good job!” I tell her almost continuously, sometimes from a place of...

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Feb 18, 2015

Hang out for three days with 1,300 people like yourself, and—if you’re a writer, at least—it’s interesting to hear what words keep coming up. Over the long weekend at January’s Gay Christian Network conference, I shared a meal with companions from several of my worlds: trans/nonbinary people, Episcopalians, bridge builders across hot-button divides. I took part...

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Feb 10, 2015

I was hoping to visit a new church this past Sunday, and looked up an old church I use to attend when I first moved to the city several years ago. I was really disappointed to see that the founding pastor had left and that the church seemed to have gone in a different direction. I decided to browse through their website to try to get a feel for what the church...

“Go and Sin No More”? You don’t get to say that. Ever.

“Go and Sin No More”? You don’t get to say that. Ever.

Feb 2, 2015

We hear it all the time. We can argue the grace and forgiveness of Jesus till the cows come home, how he forgave the woman caught in adultery. “Neither do I condemn you.” “See how gracious Jesus is?” we say. And then some smart Christian inevitably comes back with, “Yeah, but he also said, ‘Go and sin no more.'” And...

Christian Perfection?

Christian Perfection?

Jan 14, 2015

Holiness can sometimes look more like something out of “50 Shades of Grey” than something that came out of church.   Okay. That did it. I was chewing on an idea for a post, feeling like I needed to write it “for the good of all humanity” (ego much?), and then got distracted by this latest tidbit on Facebook:  “It is therefore...

Fear & Evolving Faith

Fear & Evolving Faith

Oct 25, 2014

Throughout my entire faith journey with all of its up’s and down’s I have tried to remain rooted in a community of faith. I believe that humans, created in the image of the Triune God who is, fundamentally and eternally, a relationship, have an intrinsic need for community. It is our deepest longing- to be united with God and with one another. And it is when we...

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Oct 10, 2014

Why is it so hard for many Christian parents to unconditionally love their LGBTQ child? What is the source of the confusion and struggle? I look forward to answering a question I have heard from so many parents: How can I unconditionally love my gay child? I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking,...