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The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

Apr 1, 2015

Palm Sunday was a few days ago, the first day of the most powerful and important week in the church year. In liturgical traditions, the service opens with joyful singing and the waving of palms, and progresses into a reading of the Passion. The account in Mark’s gospel begins with a woman from Bethany lavishing Jesus with love and costly nard, but then it...

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Mar 23, 2015

At three-and-a-half years old, Maya* is an absolute delight. Wearing polka dot rain boots, she splashes in parking lot puddles, her ringlets bouncing, and a smile of sheer joy spreads across her face. Before the day’s end I am in awe of her thoughtfulness, creativity, logic, and imagination. “Good job!” I tell her almost continuously, sometimes from a place of...

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Feb 18, 2015

Hang out for three days with 1,300 people like yourself, and—if you’re a writer, at least—it’s interesting to hear what words keep coming up. Over the long weekend at January’s Gay Christian Network conference, I shared a meal with companions from several of my worlds: trans/nonbinary people, Episcopalians, bridge builders across hot-button divides. I took part...

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Your Idea of Sin Sucks

Feb 10, 2015

I was hoping to visit a new church this past Sunday, and looked up an old church I use to attend when I first moved to the city several years ago. I was really disappointed to see that the founding pastor had left and that the church seemed to have gone in a different direction. I decided to browse through their website to try to get a feel for what the church...

“Go and Sin No More”? You don’t get to say that. Ever.

“Go and Sin No More”? You don’t get to say that. Ever.

Feb 2, 2015

We hear it all the time. We can argue the grace and forgiveness of Jesus till the cows come home, how he forgave the woman caught in adultery. “Neither do I condemn you.” “See how gracious Jesus is?” we say. And then some smart Christian inevitably comes back with, “Yeah, but he also said, ‘Go and sin no more.'” And...

Christian Perfection?

Christian Perfection?

Jan 14, 2015

Holiness can sometimes look more like something out of “50 Shades of Grey” than something that came out of church.   Okay. That did it. I was chewing on an idea for a post, feeling like I needed to write it “for the good of all humanity” (ego much?), and then got distracted by this latest tidbit on Facebook:  “It is therefore...

Fear & Evolving Faith

Fear & Evolving Faith

Oct 25, 2014

Throughout my entire faith journey with all of its up’s and down’s I have tried to remain rooted in a community of faith. I believe that humans, created in the image of the Triune God who is, fundamentally and eternally, a relationship, have an intrinsic need for community. It is our deepest longing- to be united with God and with one another. And it is when we...

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Oct 10, 2014

Why is it so hard for many Christian parents to unconditionally love their LGBTQ child? What is the source of the confusion and struggle? I look forward to answering a question I have heard from so many parents: How can I unconditionally love my gay child? I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking,...

“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

Sep 5, 2014

 “You are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.“ Uh, what!? Have you heard that? Had it thrown in your face? What in the world does it mean?? Who can be perfect? And is that a reasonable goal? No, it’s not. And it’s not what you think the verse means. “Perfect” in the original biblical language means...

Dear Susan: Doesn’t God Tell Us To Judge Each Other?

Dear Susan: Doesn’t God Tell Us To Judge Each Other?

Aug 29, 2014

  Are we supposed to judge each other?  Doesn’t God tell us to do that? Another “hot button” topic for today’s “Dear Susan” – let’s do it.  : ) I write these every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes funny… but hopefully always worth the read.  🙂...