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Mama Bear God

Mama Bear God

May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or regrets than actual memories. It  may be the apex  of celebration – like for my friends who on Friday finalized adoption of their twin boys. But the holiday may also be gut wrenching, for...

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Sep 30, 2016

In the world we live in today where so many of us are constantly goal setting, have you ever taken the time to wonder what kind of goals guys like Moses, David, and Joseph set? You hear it all over the place. I certainly did when I worked in the high end of professional sports. “You have to set your goals and go out there and make things happen for yourself,”...

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Nov 16, 2015

I just saw a cute meme on Facebook. Sounds almost like the beginning of a joke, right? But I really liked it. It was tasteful, unlike so many of the religious-themed ones. It had a message I liked.  And it was simple. But … It was also simplistic. As far as memes go, this one was probably as true as any of them. General encouragement, general principle, general...

Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

Oct 23, 2015

  “God has a plan. God is working his plan. God’s plan includes you.”  Those were words printed in bold letters on a sign hung above the pulpit in a church I used to go to in Tulsa. The pastor wanted her people to know that their lives were not just stuck in the mud, that God was doing something in them and through them. God was working. We all need that...

The Heresy of Quiet Times

The Heresy of Quiet Times

Oct 21, 2015

“Jesus happens in quiet times.” Growing up, I remember a minister consistently using this line to guilt us into regular “quiet times.” We were told that these daily times of personal prayer and Bible study were what made us Christians. We were not alone. Throughout the Christian faith, there exists this strange idea that quiet times are the base...

The Seductive Lie of “God’s Favor”

The Seductive Lie of “God’s Favor”

Aug 17, 2015

He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matthew 5:45 Sometimes the lies we believe are so subtle and so seductive that it’s really not a fair fight. The sales pitch can be so enticing and the promises so grand, that we can’t be blamed at all for embracing them without greater scrutiny, because...

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Jun 18, 2015

We are a “Faith” generation. Many of us who surfed the wave of “Word-Faith” teaching that swept explosively through the Church in the 1980s and ’90s have since found our balance point in life. As with any fresh movement of the Spirit, there were excesses, misunderstandings, and actions out of spiritual immaturity unchecked by the...

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

Jun 12, 2015

Living with uncertainty just may be the mark of a genuinely in-touch spiritual life. When your thoughts, your perspective of the God and the universe, go beyond the limits of what you’ve been taught, when you begin to think outside the lines, it can be a very scary thing. But it can also be a sign of profound growth. And you might be in touch with God in...

The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

The (Female) Jesus I Saw this Sunday

Apr 1, 2015

Palm Sunday was a few days ago, the first day of the most powerful and important week in the church year. In liturgical traditions, the service opens with joyful singing and the waving of palms, and progresses into a reading of the Passion. The account in Mark’s gospel begins with a woman from Bethany lavishing Jesus with love and costly nard, but then it...

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Learning about God from Non-Christian Lesbian Moms

Mar 23, 2015

At three-and-a-half years old, Maya* is an absolute delight. Wearing polka dot rain boots, she splashes in parking lot puddles, her ringlets bouncing, and a smile of sheer joy spreads across her face. Before the day’s end I am in awe of her thoughtfulness, creativity, logic, and imagination. “Good job!” I tell her almost continuously, sometimes from a place of...