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The God of Love and the Pillar of Salt

The God of Love and the Pillar of Salt

Sep 27, 2017

The character of Lot’s Wife has always been a difficult one to reconcile with a God of love. Why does God smite this woman for looking back on the burning city that was her home? Can such a story reveal anything loving about God? But a key to coming to terms with difficult passages in Scripture — as well as understanding the nature of God described...

Is Your Faith Transactional or Transformational? It makes all the difference in the world.

Is Your Faith Transactional or Transformational? It makes all the difference in the world.

Sep 20, 2017

One of the central themes repeated in Scripture is the call for us to seek God.  When we seek God simply to know Him and draw closer to Him, our faith becomes transformational. But when we do it in a misguided attempt to earn something or try to get God to DO something, our faith becomes transactional.  That may seem a bit technical at first glance, but hang in...

The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

Jul 28, 2017

I recently made a friend via the internet that I’ve been chatting with for a few weeks and this guy, who lives in Egypt, had recently been going through a tough time of trying to believe if or how God loves him as he is, being gay and all. He seemed very focused on the Bible and those six infamous “clobber” passages, and I confessed I’m not the best at...

Finally Home

Finally Home

Jul 15, 2017

HOME IS THE PLACE WHERE, WHEN YOU HAVE TO GO THERE, THEY HAVE TO TAKE YOU IN ― ROBERT FROST Like many queer people, I’ve had a messy and often painful relationship with the institutional church. Yet in my 33 years of life, I’ve come to believe that even messy and painful does not mean irredeemable. Last week, while attending the General Synod of the...

Shower Thoughts: Inconvenient Grace

Shower Thoughts: Inconvenient Grace

Jul 5, 2017

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. – Col. 3:13 NIV Whilst showering one day, something in the soap made me think of a Good Friday service at my church a few years ago. The main sanctuary was packed to the rafters and my reward for not coming an hour early was a seat in a small...

Mama Bear God

Mama Bear God

May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or regrets than actual memories. It  may be the apex  of celebration – like for my friends who on Friday finalized adoption of their twin boys. But the holiday may also be gut wrenching, for...

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Sep 30, 2016

In the world we live in today where so many of us are constantly goal setting, have you ever taken the time to wonder what kind of goals guys like Moses, David, and Joseph set? You hear it all over the place. I certainly did when I worked in the high end of professional sports. “You have to set your goals and go out there and make things happen for yourself,”...

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Nov 16, 2015

I just saw a cute meme on Facebook. Sounds almost like the beginning of a joke, right? But I really liked it. It was tasteful, unlike so many of the religious-themed ones. It had a message I liked.  And it was simple. But … It was also simplistic. As far as memes go, this one was probably as true as any of them. General encouragement, general principle, general...

Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

Now is the Time of Your Breakthrough. Or Maybe Not.

Oct 23, 2015

  “God has a plan. God is working his plan. God’s plan includes you.”  Those were words printed in bold letters on a sign hung above the pulpit in a church I used to go to in Tulsa. The pastor wanted her people to know that their lives were not just stuck in the mud, that God was doing something in them and through them. God was working. We all need that...

The Heresy of Quiet Times

The Heresy of Quiet Times

Oct 21, 2015

“Jesus happens in quiet times.” Growing up, I remember a minister consistently using this line to guilt us into regular “quiet times.” We were told that these daily times of personal prayer and Bible study were what made us Christians. We were not alone. Throughout the Christian faith, there exists this strange idea that quiet times are the base...