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Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

Dec 9, 2016

Celebrating the 80th birthday of LGBTQ Pioneer and Poet, Louie Crew Clay. Forty years ago, when the Church laughed at the idea that homosexuals could be included in the community of faith, Louie Crew penned the words that now seem self-evident and commonplace: “All Christian wholeness demands affirmation of God ordained sexuality.” Seeking to secure...

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Nov 29, 2016

  File this one under “humor, mild” and “realness” and “masculinity” and “being.” I am thankful for skinny pants. I like the way they feel and look and am thankful they exist and that I’m wearing them right now. “Oh, Stan… stop being silly. How random!” Not completely. A couple of years ago… hell, maybe even a year ago… I wouldn’t have worn skinny pants....

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Nov 14, 2016

I’ve spent a great deal of time this past week thinking about the Presidential election and the fallout from it. Like many in America, I am reeling from the uncertainty that this election has fostered. Before I get into my assessment of the situation and outline a course of action, I want to revisit an ancient story that very much parallels what we’re...

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

Nov 3, 2016

In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we were: deeply in love, and now deeply heartbroken. We had lived in a horrible...

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got...

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Sacramental “One Flesh” Union Includes Gay Couples Too

Oct 10, 2016

Several years ago, as I was journeying out of the traditional theological view of gay marriage, I read an extraordinary book by Dr. James Brownson titled Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing The Church’s Debate on Same-Sex Relationships. Bible, Gender, Sexuality is a thing of theological beauty: elegant, persuasive, and deeply compassionate. It was the book that...

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Sep 30, 2016

In the world we live in today where so many of us are constantly goal setting, have you ever taken the time to wonder what kind of goals guys like Moses, David, and Joseph set? You hear it all over the place. I certainly did when I worked in the high end of professional sports. “You have to set your goals and go out there and make things happen for yourself,”...

Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

Finding Fulfillment as a Grocery Store Cashier

Sep 8, 2016

“Wow” said the man, “you are still working at this store. I’m impressed. Most people with higher IQ’s don’t stay here very long.” “Thanks?” I said, ringing him up. “So what are you really doing with your life,” said another older gentleman as I bagged his groceries, “because clearly you’re...

Intent versus Face Value: A Few (Shocking) Thoughts about the Bible

Intent versus Face Value: A Few (Shocking) Thoughts about the Bible

Aug 23, 2016

I am terrified of a church that applies the texts of Scripture at face value, without a serious and involved consideration of the original audience, the socio-religious context they lived within, and how that context differs from our own. “Take God at His word” sounds cute and all religiousy, but it’s actually quite reckless, extremely...