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Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Mar 21, 2017

Dear Evangelicalism, First of all, I love you. I fell in love with you in third grade when my parents ventured out of my grandparents’ tiny but beloved Lutheran church that was filled mostly with people over the age of 60, the faint scent of flowery perfume and spicy shaving cream lingering long after the sanctuary emptied. I met you in the basement of a...

Choosing Intentional Rest

Choosing Intentional Rest

Mar 13, 2017

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the “resting” has taken on a new meaning for me. In the past, rest was wasting time in front of the TV or browsing the Internet or even taking a nap. This spring break, my plan is to be more...

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Sexy

Sexy

Jan 16, 2017

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just...

Words

Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

Dec 9, 2016

Celebrating the 80th birthday of LGBTQ Pioneer and Poet, Louie Crew Clay. Forty years ago, when the Church laughed at the idea that homosexuals could be included in the community of faith, Louie Crew penned the words that now seem self-evident and commonplace: “All Christian wholeness demands affirmation of God ordained sexuality.” Seeking to secure...

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Nov 29, 2016

  File this one under “humor, mild” and “realness” and “masculinity” and “being.” I am thankful for skinny pants. I like the way they feel and look and am thankful they exist and that I’m wearing them right now. “Oh, Stan… stop being silly. How random!” Not completely. A couple of years ago… hell, maybe even a year ago… I wouldn’t have worn skinny pants....

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Nov 14, 2016

I’ve spent a great deal of time this past week thinking about the Presidential election and the fallout from it. Like many in America, I am reeling from the uncertainty that this election has fostered. Before I get into my assessment of the situation and outline a course of action, I want to revisit an ancient story that very much parallels what we’re...

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

When I Became a Sexual Compulsive

Nov 3, 2016

In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we were: deeply in love, and now deeply heartbroken. We had lived in a horrible...

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got...