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15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

15 Things I’ve Learnt From Being Unemployed for 2 Months (and counting)

Aug 22, 2017

For many years, I had a nice, peaceful, routine life with a good job and a great employer. But one day in late May, I found out I was going to be laid off in the near future. Though my employer and I parted on excellent terms, reality still applied to me. Losing your job is a major life change, and it isn’t one of the most pleasant things for someone to...

The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

The one thing Jesus said that helped me come to peace with my sexuality

Jul 28, 2017

I recently made a friend via the internet that I’ve been chatting with for a few weeks and this guy, who lives in Egypt, had recently been going through a tough time of trying to believe if or how God loves him as he is, being gay and all. He seemed very focused on the Bible and those six infamous “clobber” passages, and I confessed I’m not the best at...

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

Jul 20, 2017

It is never a good feeling when you get an email blast from a beloved organization you have supported for many years that begins “Due to irreconcilable differences …” That’s what shook Facebook and social media July 19th. And the posts and comments exploded. What happened? Why? Who’s to blame? What happens next, what about …?...

Finally Home

Finally Home

Jul 15, 2017

HOME IS THE PLACE WHERE, WHEN YOU HAVE TO GO THERE, THEY HAVE TO TAKE YOU IN ― ROBERT FROST Like many queer people, I’ve had a messy and often painful relationship with the institutional church. Yet in my 33 years of life, I’ve come to believe that even messy and painful does not mean irredeemable. Last week, while attending the General Synod of the...

Shower Thoughts: Inconvenient Grace

Shower Thoughts: Inconvenient Grace

Jul 5, 2017

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. – Col. 3:13 NIV Whilst showering one day, something in the soap made me think of a Good Friday service at my church a few years ago. The main sanctuary was packed to the rafters and my reward for not coming an hour early was a seat in a small...

Naked and Unashamed

Naked and Unashamed

May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the line “Sex is evil. Sex is bad. Save it for the one you love.” It’s funny, yet so terribly sad. Add to this situation that I was gay. Growing up gay in the evangelical church added...

Mama Bear God

Mama Bear God

May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or regrets than actual memories. It  may be the apex  of celebration – like for my friends who on Friday finalized adoption of their twin boys. But the holiday may also be gut wrenching, for...

Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Mar 21, 2017

Dear Evangelicalism, First of all, I love you. I fell in love with you in third grade when my parents ventured out of my grandparents’ tiny but beloved Lutheran church that was filled mostly with people over the age of 60, the faint scent of flowery perfume and spicy shaving cream lingering long after the sanctuary emptied. I met you in the basement of a...

Choosing Intentional Rest

Choosing Intentional Rest

Mar 13, 2017

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the “resting” has taken on a new meaning for me. In the past, rest was wasting time in front of the TV or browsing the Internet or even taking a nap. This spring break, my plan is to be more...

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...