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Dear Church Leaders: Get Real or Go Home

Dear Church Leaders: Get Real or Go Home

Oct 3, 2015

If I have to see one more article on “why millennials are leaving the church,” I think I might scream. Well, not really. Those dramatic days are (mostly) behind me. But really. The younger generation has always been leaving the church … I remember hearing the same lament back in the 70s when I was just a kid. The thing is, as much as I grow...

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

What’s so Wrong with Being a Christian Slut?

Sep 14, 2015

Okay, maybe NOW I’ve actually got to write this thing. I’ve been putting it off for months, writing about Christian sexuality. It’s such an important topic, but honestly, it’s so loaded with inherited moralistic and church tradition baggage — plus, the theology is incredibly subtle — that I didn’t want to open that...

Bachelor Food: Naan Pizza for One (or Two)

Bachelor Food: Naan Pizza for One (or Two)

Aug 29, 2015

“I love it that you have all these random jars of interesting things in your refrigerator.” That was Jake. We were making dinner together one night last week, and I pulled out a jar of Giardiniera. It’s basically just pickled cauliflower, carrots, celery and peppers; you know, stuff to munch on while you’re watching TV, when you want something...

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”?

Aug 18, 2015

When was the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Weird idea? Maybe it sounds like it at first, but we as a community are desperately in need of hearing those words — especially from ourselves. And by “we,” I mean LGBTQ people and Christian people, and especially those of us who fit in both categories. Many of us LGBTQ people...

And then God struck …. Not.

And then God struck …. Not.

Jun 26, 2015

Minutes after the US Supreme Court handed down their ruling overturning bans on same-sex marriage, posts were already going up on Facebook and across the blogosphere about “Spitting in the face of God” and “God’s impending wrath on America. *Sigh* Really? Of course, this kind of reaction is not surprising. There are a surprising number...

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Faith, Anticipation and Expectation – When you don’t know how to pray or what to believe

Jun 18, 2015

We are a “Faith” generation. Many of us who surfed the wave of “Word-Faith” teaching that swept explosively through the Church in the 1980s and ’90s have since found our balance point in life. As with any fresh movement of the Spirit, there were excesses, misunderstandings, and actions out of spiritual immaturity unchecked by the...

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

When your faith is bigger than the Bible…

Jun 12, 2015

Living with uncertainty just may be the mark of a genuinely in-touch spiritual life. When your thoughts, your perspective of the God and the universe, go beyond the limits of what you’ve been taught, when you begin to think outside the lines, it can be a very scary thing. But it can also be a sign of profound growth. And you might be in touch with God in...

Your Tithe Doesn’t Belong to Your Church

Your Tithe Doesn’t Belong to Your Church

Jun 2, 2015

Wow, do we have it wrong! I bet when you hear the word “tithe” or even “offerings,” your thoughts go immediately to pictures of a plate being passed in church. I’ve heard it from pulpits myself, “the tithe belongs to the church … your offerings can go to other places (like the traveling evangelist passing through), but...

Why I Keep Dog Food in my Car

Why I Keep Dog Food in my Car

Mar 29, 2015

A few summers ago I was driving back to work after having lunch with a friend, and I saw this scrawny yellow dog hoofing it across a busy intersection. It was a hot afternoon, and the dog caught my attention because it was tagging about 100 feet behind a couple of people who’d crossed a minute or two earlier, panting and looking thirsty. What really sucky pet...

Review: “The Passion of Christ: A Gay Vision” by Kittredge Cherry & Douglas Blanchard

Review: “The Passion of Christ: A Gay Vision” by Kittredge Cherry & Douglas Blanchard

Mar 28, 2015

The Passion of Christ: A Gay Vision. Text by Kittredge Cherry. Art by Douglas Blanchard.   It’s a bit shocking at first – at least to an evangelical believer, even a gay one. The title itself almost slaps you in the face, first luring you with familiar religious tones, then almost sneaking in the punch: “The Passion of Christ: a Gay Vision.”  Half of you...