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“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

“Be Perfect!” – It’s Not What You Think

Sep 5, 2014

 “You are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.“ Uh, what!? Have you heard that? Had it thrown in your face? What in the world does it mean?? Who can be perfect? And is that a reasonable goal? No, it’s not. And it’s not what you think the verse means. “Perfect” in the original biblical language means...

Coming Out and Letting Go

Coming Out and Letting Go

Sep 4, 2014

“The energy of avoidance became too great to ignore. I broke. After nearly 20 years of hiding and running away, I made a willful decision to face the pain, address the guilt and talk about the shame. This time, I wasn’t giving up; I was letting go.” Today, I am honored to feature a guest post from my friend Tim Rymel.  I hope your heart is...

Dear Susan: Doesn’t God Tell Us To Judge Each Other?

Dear Susan: Doesn’t God Tell Us To Judge Each Other?

Aug 29, 2014

  Are we supposed to judge each other?  Doesn’t God tell us to do that? Another “hot button” topic for today’s “Dear Susan” – let’s do it.  : ) I write these every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes funny… but hopefully always worth the read.  🙂...

What Are Biblical Values?

What Are Biblical Values?

Aug 27, 2014

Title IX protection of transgender students on college campuses is clashing with Christian colleges’ right to religious expression. What to do? How do we accommodate trans students and protect these colleges’ values? It’s a huge question, and it’s not going away. This Huffington Post piece gives an overview of the battle in many...

Jesus Blog: Just Carry an Empty Bag

Jesus Blog: Just Carry an Empty Bag

Aug 24, 2014

 More today from Susan Cottrell’s “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Remember Mary Poppins? She arrived as a nanny with a carpetbag, then pulled from it items that could not possibly have fit in it – a potted plant, a wall mirror, a hatstand, a lamp. She did this with calm confidence. She did not wonder whether the bag would work for her this time;...

Let’s Not Go Through This Alone

Let’s Not Go Through This Alone

Aug 23, 2014

“Depression is anger without the excitement.” – Mike Wells Depression is anger turned inward… it is anger that has no means of expression… it comes when there is no hope. The tragedy of suicide (whatever variables may be involved) has one underlying current: that person has lost hope. To lose hope is to see no way out of the current situation. Life...

Dear Susan: Are Ex-Gay Camps a Good Idea?

Dear Susan: Are Ex-Gay Camps a Good Idea?

Aug 22, 2014

Have you heard of “reparative therapy?”  Ex-gay camps?  Where they “cure” the gay out of kids and young adults?  Do they work – are they a good idea? When a Christian parent of a gay child does a Google search or talks to their pastor, this is often the prescribed remedy to “fix” their child. I welcome the chance to...

Shedding Religion to Embrace Life!

Shedding Religion to Embrace Life!

Aug 21, 2014

  “You have no obligation to defend your journey. There is no jury for you to answer to. Speak your truth with authenticity and conviction. Stop trying to accommodate people who don’t agree with you.” Loved this from Jim Palmer and thought you would, too. Memo to Shedders: As you deconstruct and shed your former “Christian”...

Gungor: Faith vs Dogma

Gungor: Faith vs Dogma

Aug 19, 2014

“If you asked any Christian before the birth of the modern era and the Enlightenment, ‘what is the foundation of Christianity?’, they would say ‘Jesus Christ.’  If you asked many Christians that same question today in the post-Enlightenment world, they would respond, ‘the Bible.'” – Gungor Perhaps you heard about...

Respect — It’s Not That Hard

Respect — It’s Not That Hard

Aug 17, 2014

“You have no idea how important you are to me. I will try and put it into words… I feel more like a woman when I am with you here [on FB] than any other person with the exception of my therapist. I never feel like a split or two people. You have always treated me with the respect of a sister … “ When my trans friend Joy messaged me this,...