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End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

End of an Era: GCN and Justin Lee part ways

Jul 20, 2017

It is never a good feeling when you get an email blast from a beloved organization you have supported for many years that begins “Due to irreconcilable differences …” That’s what shook Facebook and social media July 19th. And the posts and comments exploded. What happened? Why? Who’s to blame? What happens next, what about …?...

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Feb 7, 2017

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re tasty, easy to make — and grain-free. So here’s how this little adventure started out. I love my carbs. Pastas, pancakes, pastries, crusty French bread… They’re...

Bachelor Food: Pasta Puttanesca

Bachelor Food: Pasta Puttanesca

Oct 28, 2016

It’s been a while since we’ve run a foodie post, but the other day when I posted a photo of my dinner on Facebook (yeah, I’m one of those people), a bachelor friend commented that he doesn’t know how to cook and wished I’d posted the recipe along with the photo. So, for you, Jay, here it is. I’ve been a spaghetti fan since I...

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck making connections by announcing to a wider audience. Sure, why not? What are friends for if not setting you up on your next blind date? But here’s the kicker, the thing that got...

Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

Aug 18, 2016

  I had to resist rubbing my hands together in a weak moment of delighted schadenfreude when I read that Tony Perkins — rabid right-wing, anti-gay leader of the Family Research Council — lost his house this past week in the floods of Louisiana. The same guy who preached that natural disasters were God’s vengeance on America for tolerating...

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

Breaking Up Was One of the Best Things to Ever Happen to Me

May 13, 2016

A couple of friends on social media have posted recently about the difficulties they’re having after breaking up with their boyfriends. I can empathize. That emotional vortex can tear you apart for a few weeks and make you feel like your whole life is destroyed. But, for me, it turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. Relationships are...

Please, Don’t Invite Someone to Church This Month

Please, Don’t Invite Someone to Church This Month

Mar 29, 2016

We’ve got some big problems in the Church these days. That’s no great revelation. Just ask anybody on the street what they think of Christianity, especially during election season, and you’ll get an earful.  We hear it so often, in fact, that we in the Church turn a deaf ear to it. We tune it out. We’re callous to criticism. And we just go on our merry way,...

An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

Feb 8, 2016

Today, another moral dilemma for an introvert. One of the guys in the company I work for put in his notice, and the managers want to do a “going away lunch” for him — today. Short notice. And it kinda freaks me out. I really don’t want to go. I hardly know the guy, I hate work-related social events, and especially without adequate time...

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Growing Beyond the Formulas

Nov 16, 2015

I just saw a cute meme on Facebook. Sounds almost like the beginning of a joke, right? But I really liked it. It was tasteful, unlike so many of the religious-themed ones. It had a message I liked.  And it was simple. But … It was also simplistic. As far as memes go, this one was probably as true as any of them. General encouragement, general principle, general...

The Sacrament of Cooking Bacon

The Sacrament of Cooking Bacon

Nov 11, 2015

Growing up as a Protestant, I had an inherent distaste for ritual. Liturgy, routines and orders of worship (even though every church has one) … were all equated with “religion,” the imitation of true relationship with God. “Religion = Death” was a mental slogan, even if the words never quite formed that way in our minds.  Even...