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A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Parents Who Disown Their Gay Son on Video

A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Parents Who Disown Their Gay Son on Video

Aug 29, 2014

Another young person has been thrown out of his home for coming out as gay. I have written about this on a number of occasions covering such events in the United States, Nigeria and Uganda. This time the event was recorded. Trying to imagine the evil some people can impart on their children is no longer necessary. Now we can hear them in their own self...

Why I Write as a “Gay Dad”

Why I Write as a “Gay Dad”

Aug 4, 2014

I did not intend to write about this topic. A friend of mine, Henry Amador, blogger and founder of Dadsquared, addressed it in a piece called “The Battle Cry of the Gay Dad” for The Next Family. He captured the essence of the extra effort those of us who are gay dads have gone through to become fathers. He said, in part: “Only now we too are grown. We finally...

A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Evangelicals Who Recruited Him When He Was 9…

A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Evangelicals Who Recruited Him When He Was 9…

Jul 29, 2014

The headline pissed me off when I read it in my news feed.   “Evangelical Group Plans to Convert Children as Young As Five at Portland Parks.” As a dad, an interest group, any interest group, going after kids is unacceptable in my book. As I read the article further, I found out that the evangelical group in question was the Child Evangelism Fellowship’s Good...

A Gay Dad to the International Olympic Committee: Move the Damned Games Already

A Gay Dad to the International Olympic Committee: Move the Damned Games Already

Aug 15, 2013

Two masters of the art come face to face and battle wits, brawn, and skill to win their meet and emerge victorious. While that could be a description of any instance at the Olympic Games, it is really an observation of the game of chicken being played out now between Russia and the International Olympic Committee. Who will blink first and cave into the other’s...

How Can We Stop a Modern-Day Russian Hitler?

How Can We Stop a Modern-Day Russian Hitler?

Jul 29, 2013

“Participation in these games must not be construed to be an endorsement of the policies and practices of the Russian government,” said a leader of the American Olympic Committee and the anti-boycott forces. “Measures have been adopted to ensure that there will be no violation of the fundamental principles of fair play and sportsmanship, or the Olympic...

A Gay Dad Sounds Off About Fundamentalists Who Target Kids

A Gay Dad Sounds Off About Fundamentalists Who Target Kids

May 28, 2013

As a parent, my Job #1 is the protection and care of my children. It is my job to be vigilant over their self-worth, to keep them physically safe, to show them how to be moral and productive citizens, and to empower their spiritual growth. It is a duty that I take very seriously. It is distressing when total strangers launch an attack against all those things...

A Mother’s Day Card to All LGBT Parents – Including Gay Dads

A Mother’s Day Card to All LGBT Parents – Including Gay Dads

May 8, 2013

Recently, author Jennifer Finney Boylan commented about her transgender experience: “After all these years, my own identity has wound up less altered than I had expected. It should not have been a surprise, perhaps, but the most shocking revelation after ten years in the female sex is that mostly I am the same person I always was, gender notwithstanding.” Even...

Gay Dad Makes Basketball Part of the Gay Agenda

Gay Dad Makes Basketball Part of the Gay Agenda

May 2, 2013

Ihave a confession to make. As much as I loathe clichés and generalizations, there is one that I live up to with incredible gusto. I typify the gay guy who doesn’t do sports. Not even a little bit. From the pains of never getting picked for teams in PE to the days of racking up huge Trivial Pursuit momentum only to be demolished by the final Orange pie question...

A Gay Dad Thanks Justice Kennedy for Hearing His Kids’ Voices

A Gay Dad Thanks Justice Kennedy for Hearing His Kids’ Voices

Mar 30, 2013

A few months ago, I wrote a blog piece in anticipation of the Supreme Court review of marriage equality and the Prop 8 and DOMA cases.  In that piece, an open letter to Justice Anthony Kennedy, I invited the jurist to dinner so that he could meet my family.  While thousands of people read the article, I have no information to indicate that he did. He apparently...

A Gay Dad asks Sen. Rob Portman to Step Up as a Dad for All Gay Families

A Gay Dad asks Sen. Rob Portman to Step Up as a Dad for All Gay Families

Mar 18, 2013

I relate to the Portman family on many levels. Like Will Portman, I am also the son of a staunch Republican dad to whom I came out.  My dad is older than Rob Portman.  He adheres very much to the viewpoints of Bill O’Reilly, Rush Limbaugh and Fox News.  Rob Portman presumably knows all those people personally. Like the Portmans, we too had our political theory...